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writes:Hi, I have a major problem and its been going on for months. I need to know how do I break up with my boyfriend. Ive been with him 2 years and we moved in together 4 months ago and its like living in hell... He's moody, agressive and nasty and to be honest at this stage I just want out.. the only problem is I don't know how to do it. i know this sounds stupid but i have never dumped anyone. But I'm so unhappy right now I don't think I can take it anymore.. I have a serious high tolerance for bullsh*t but I actually think he has just pushed me over the edge.. Any advice on how to dump him would be gratefully appreciated..
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (13 January 2008):
 Just pack your bags and things and leave him a note saying "Goodbye!"
If he wants you back , he will have to treat you on your terms.
If not, it is goodbye forever.
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reader, AuteurMarie  +, writes (13 January 2008):
Short answer: Quickly and honestly.Living together is sort of the ultimate test. A person can hold it together fairly well in short bursts, but the person you get when you're with someone day in and day out ... that's the real deal. And they're not going anywhere. Tell him tell him tell him how you feel. Tell him you're unhappy and that things aren't working. Tell him it's over.I don't think we give enough credit to how hard it is to be the orchestrator of a heartbreak. While being dumped is certainly devastating, being the person to do the breaking is also hard. You feel responsible for another person's feelings, you don't want to hurt this person that you once (and probably still) cared for. But if it isn't right, you're not doing them a favor by miserably staying with them. Be kind. Be compassionate. Be honest. Be firm.
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reader, jm81690  +, writes (12 January 2008):
 Just tell him the truth, you feel after the last 4 months you guys have just grown apart and it wasn't meant to happen.
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