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writes:Apologies that this a job-related rather than relationship-related question.Our male boss at work has made a few comments lately to female employees that I find a bit questionable, but I would like a second opinion on what these remarks say about his character (e.g. Is he just immature, trying to be friendly, a masogynist):1. Male boss to female staff member: why don't you ever wear your hair down?2. Female staff member to male boss: I will need to go home between business trips to do some laundry. Male boss replies to female staff member: that's a very girly thing to say3. Male boss to female staff member: my wife and I bought a cat at the weekend, 'it made her womb pound'.Thanks for you thoughts
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (15 May 2018):
 I pick option 4:
I think your boss in as idiot trying to be witty.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (15 May 2018):
 First comment- it was/is absolutely none of his business why she doesn't wear her hair down. Creepy and unnecessary comment. Trying to come across as over familiar.
Second- let's put the comment aside, I don't really understand who goes home between business trips to do laundry. Is that a done thing now?
Third- absolutely ridiculous, tactless, immature, stupid and offensive (to his wife) way of talking.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2018): I would say that the boss is trying to be trendy and failing.His mind is on his work and he has difficulty relating to others for those brief moments when he tries to be sociable.He sounds as if he is old school kind of man, everything black and white, male or female and blurring boundaries is not on his mind.For example: laundry remark.He doesnt mind the employee requesting time but in his head a male counterpart would say he needs a couple of hours to do a few rounds of golf to unwind.He probably leaves laundry to the wife.I wouldnt read too much into it.He just sounds mentally elsewhere but trying to be part of a team without being too directive.His remarks are from a dated era where men didnt get too involved in women stuff like laundry, babies and shopping and cooking.He is not trying it on.He needs to keep women slightly at a distance for his peace of mind.Womb pounding sounds like something he's heard from a play, film or novel to express a warm emotion or desire to have a child.A practical rather than emotional man.
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