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writes:my bestmate has been feeling really uncomfortable in one of her lessons lately. the teacher said she was really pretty and if he were the same age he would have probably asked her out.just yesterday he said that he had a girlfriend when he was our age and that she looked exactly like my bestmate. also that he was crazy about her.ive had this teacher before and everyone thought he was the nicer teacher who was abit on the crazy side. but she always gets detentions and im worried if she gets one with him what he would do.also what should she do about him? Reply to this Question
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reader, Krystelle +, writes (29 February 2008):
Krystelle is verified as being by the original poster of the question1. at our school not many people get after school detentions. and when they do have after school detentions its about 3 maybe 2 people. not many. 2. no she hasnt just broke up with a boyfriend. and he said it to her when they were doing their work. he came over and just told her. they werent even talking about anything near them lines.
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reader, oklahoma  +, writes (29 February 2008):
i think if she feels uncomfortable it is best to talk to someone about it maybe another teacher that you two trust or a parent. I think that if she gets detention unless its one on one she should be fine just tell her never to be alone with him and she should do ok
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (28 February 2008):
 from what ive understood he did nothing wrong really. Teachers have difficult jobs and as teachers need ways to communicate with kids, i guess talking about his youth is one way of talking to her. Maybe she was a little uncomfortable but he may have not meant it and just wanted to make conversation by saying she looked like an old girlfriend. Tell your friend not to worry to much but to stay aware of everyone.
Also if shes in detention there are other students around (i would know)
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reader, nicole5178 +, writes (28 February 2008):
 Oh my god, the hello1 person needs to stop telling everyone to report everything.
Okay, you've said very vauge things that could be viewed as inappropriate. Sometimes teachers are just trying to make conversation. The CONTEXT of his comments is extremely important. If your friend just got dumped by her boyfriend, then her teacher was probably just trying to cheer her up. If they were alone, and he stopped the conversation just to tell her that he would've gone out with her when he was younger, that's over the line. You should tell another adult if you're truely concerned, but there's a chance this could be nothing. Without more detailed information, I really can't advise one way or the other.
Just think about the repercussions of all of the actions you feel tempted to do. Talk with your friend about him. If he scares her, then report him. If not, you should maybe ask her about how she feels about him doing all of this. If her judgment is clouded, then do the right thing and tell someone. But make sure you won't regret doing this later, and that you're doing this for the right reasons.
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reader, hello1 +, writes (28 February 2008):
 God we're getting alot of these questions. When I was at school, the male teachers only attacked when we actually left school! lol.
I would tell her to report him, he should be told off for saying those kind of comments. He's just crying out to get in trouble
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (28 February 2008):
 well i think that these comments are on the inappropriate side. is he making her feel uncomfortable? talk to her and see how she feels about the situation. personally, at your young age, i would say something to my principal. it is not healthy for a teacher to be talking to a 13 year old girl like that. however, if your friend feels that she can handle it and it is not getting any worse or being taken any further, then it is up to her, she may just want to leave it. just keep in mind that once something is said, you or her cant take it back and it will have consequences for this teacher. like i said talk to her, and if he is making her in any way feel uncomfortable, then something should be said. if you want any more advice just email me good luck xxx
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