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writes:What does it mean when a guy, who i have been going for couple months tell me that "with me, you are so innocent" after making out with me? ( i did not touch his ****)Second, he said he is so frustrated everytime i left him there after our making out, he wants something that he could feel better, does he want to move to the next level? a serious relationship? or a stress release? or he is just a horny guy like most other guys?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for all the answers. i should consider about his asking now :)
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (2 April 2010):
If he wants more then he should also want a real relationship. Don't give in to anything just to please him. 2 months is not a long time to make him wait.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2010): Of course he wants a more intense physical relationship -- everyone, guy or girl, enjoys sex. Yes, guys (especially at your age), are more likely to be pursuing a girl for sex, but plenty of girls do the same thing.
In your case, however, I don't think that this guy is just looking for sex, unless he is very inexperienced. Two months is a long time to be dating someone with no sexplay, if that's your sole motivation.
You don't say what your level of experience is, or whether you, too, might be interested in other physical activities with him. Or, for that matter, why you haven't yet done more with him. Please don't take this as a criticism of your actions -- there's no obligation to have sex by a specific point in a relationship. But you should be asking yourself what you're looking for, and what you need to be comfortable, if at all, pursuing a more physical relationship.
As for what the guy's comments mean, this is fairly obvious -- he wants more. The fairly light activity you describe (I'm assuming, from the tenor of his comments and your description of the making out, that things haven't progressed much beyond kissing and some groping) is common early in a relationship, less so after two months. Some couples refrain from sex for religious or other reasons, but I think it's not unrealistic for a two-month old relationship, for people in their 20s, to include more than kissing.
The first question you should ask yourself is whether you're interested in being more physical with the guy. If so, then you need to figure out what would make this acceptable to you, e.g., a more committed relationship, his agreement not to fool around with other women, etc. Once you figure out what you need from him, talk to him about it. Clearly, he wants to do more with you, and there is a good chance he'll be willing to accommodate your concerns. If not...then you have your answer as to what he wants and you can decide whether you want to engage in a more casual relationship.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (2 April 2010):
I agree, it sounds like he's asking for sex indirectly.
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reader, Myau  +, writes (2 April 2010):
 A couple of months is a long time to keep him waiting.
Id be getting a little antsy too. However I alway have believe that sex takes care of itself so there is no point forcing it.
I am curous though, why have you been waiting so long? Do you really want to date him?
Or are you just going through the motions?
ps being female and having a pulse is high on my prioriy list too :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2010): just a stress release. he only wants you for sex
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