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writes:HI ive been dating a 26 yr old man for 2 months, Hes a sweetheart, however ive caught him twice staring at 2 women when we are out dining. It bother's me because my ex had a bad habit of this, i was with him for 14 years. How should i handle this? I dont want to be a nuisance! Thanx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanx i did talk to him and he admitted it was a bit out of hand and it was not a persistent situation. Im going to see him this weekend so we will see how it goes. thanx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2008): Every guy does this. But I found that if I saw a nice looking man I would stare and it would make him feel uncomfortable and then he stopped it. Treat him at his own medicine back and sooner or later it will stop.If it does not then you have a problem get out fast.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2008): Let me just say, I have a HUGE problem with men looking at other women when he is with me. My husband of almost 10 years, respects me enough, to have only eyes for me when we go out. And the occasions when he is by himself, I don't care aslong as he done't bring it home. So, Yes I find it very wrong that he has a wondering eye. Tell him so, and if he dissagrees, send him packing, you are a LADY, and deserver so much more!! All My Prayer!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2008): i to have this problem and he gets angry and denies it,i have tried all that the agonys suggest and it does not work any other ideas i would be greatful
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (4 July 2008):
 My husband does this and it drives me up the wall!!!! I have explained to him that as a woman I KNOW that the woman or even women he is looking at will be greatly flattered and think ha ha your blokes looking at me (thats what goes through my head every time honest and I think it when blokes look at me, blush!!!!).
So I nag for a while and it stops, I say oi stop it and it works mostly. I dont get upset anymore as I have actually worked out what he is doing is not so much looking at the woman but looking to see if she is looking at him as he is a little vain at times. This stems back to the fact that although he is gorgeous as a man, and gets better with age, he was a gangly young lad who like a lot of youngsters got his adult face on a boys body and suffered a lot with his confidence until his 20's as a result.
So ask him to be more discreet, there is no harm in looking but it can make you uncomfortable,. Next time you are out stare at a gorgeous young guy and see how he likes it. x
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (3 July 2008):
 Don't blame him too much for just looking. It's a natural enough reaction.
If it gets TOO out of hand, you might make some joking remark like "be careful there, you'll trip over your tongue" or something like that. It should give him the idea that you think he's behaving inappropriately in public. Only use this if you think he's making a spectacle of himself to the extent that it might be offensive to the other women involved or their escorts, though.
The fact that he's with you does NOT man that he's blind. And the fact that he's looking at other women, by itself, does not mean that he's likely to stray, either.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2008): almost every guy does this ( so don't feel bad or anything)
just simply ask him to stop
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