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writes:It started five months ago, I was in my senior year and in the very last months, I fell for one of my classmates. We started chatting and became friends. Unintentionally, I spoiled it all by asking him, whether he was at least a little bit into me, which he declined (this took place after our grad night). I thought, he'd break tie but he didn't. He still initiates convos via IM-though I suspect that he only does this as there's noone better around. I know he fancies some other girl, that I'm not at all his type and that he doesn't care much about other's feelings (and about his own). Still, I can't seem to let go of him, I enjoy it way too much when he contacts me and deep inside I hope that someday he might realize that I'd do almost anything for him.But this will never be the case. How should I get rid of my feelings for him without having to exclude him from my life? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2010): You did the right thing by asking him how he felt, because what's worst...Saying nothing and wishing you had? Or saying something and wishing you hadn't? I think the second option is best, because now you know he feels, so you can move on.
How does he talk to you? In a flirty way? If yes then he acts sweet around you when no one's around, but may act like a complete jerk when people are around. If not in a flirty way, it is time to move on as he fancies someone else, and clearly he doesn't care about other peoples feelings (as you've just said) so is he worth it? I think the answer is, no he isn't.
However, you are willing to hold on because you love him, and you hope one day you will get the fairytale ending and he will love you back, and you'll have that perfect relationship. But in reality you are just being crushed by false hope, so i think you know what decision to make. Let go of the one you love and move on, but still keep him as a close friend.
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reader, amanda765  +, writes (22 August 2010):
hang out with him and let him see the real you..there's no real way to get rid of true feelings so just spend time with him and he mite eventually start to have feelings with you..also don't be afraid to get a boyfriend..he could get jealous and it would keep your mind off of him
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2010): Maybe take a break from him for a little while? Go out with your friends, keep busy. Maybe you'll meet some nice guy and you'll forget about him ;) even if you don't, having some space and keeping busy will definitly help.
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