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writes:this time last year i became envolved with someone we wernt official or anything but we were seeing each other for about 8 months i was in love with him but never told him as hes not the type of lad who will settle down. he moved abroad in may and i havent spoke to him but hes coming back in 3 weeks and i havent so much as looked at anyone else i still really love him and want to start seeing him again how can i make this happen without looking like iv been moping around waiting for him. im really stuck
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2015): I have the EXACT same problem as you!! This one guy liked me but he had already moved away and was visiting my city this past summer. When he did, he made it pretty obvious he had a thing for me but nothing was said about it. :(Anyways it coming on to be 9 months since I last saw him, with only little communication on instagram and the once in a blue moon text message that I am always the one sending first UGH! So what do you do in this situation? As girls our intuition is enough to warn us on whether we are coming off as desperate or not, but sometimes our feelings get in the way of our intuition. When this happens that's when you need to sort of ignore the guy. You've probably heard the saying "guys want what they cant have." I cant stress how true this is! Give a guy less attention than you did before and that'll trigger something in his head telling him he cant lose you! Of course use your discernment to what extent you will do this but I guarantee you this always works. In the end if you see he is showing feelings towards you again, make it clear you want it to be "official" and don't want to waste time fooling around. Sometimes with love you have to allow yourself to be vulnerable, as scary as that may be. Later on you don't want to ask yourself "what if" but rather look back and say to yourself "at least I did that."
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