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anonymous
writes:Hey, so there is this girl I am friends with on Facebook and I find her very attractive, we have about 80 mutual friends (which in todays society meens f**k all, cos we probably added one another just because we have mutual friends, it's a numbers game) so the likely hood of us both mutualy knowing some one is very high, but none the less we have never met each other. Any way I was thinking of inboxing her saying hi and after doing some research on her wall, I think it would be a good idea, for example I mean there is no boys commenting on her wall, she doesn't have a boyfriend, so to me all is good.So I was just looking for some advice on the matter, mainly from girls, what would you think of a complete strager inboxing you? Either you will find me attractive or you wont, I think I'm a fairly good looking lad, I've been told many times, so how should i go about it? I obviously want to make a good impression... do I go in with a cheesy chat up line? or a simple "hey"?? What should I do? And what are good ways of starting and keeping a conversation? Also please bear in mind that all the boys on Facebook only care about being 'facebook famous', apparently all the girls like that, that's todays society, so that is my competition for girls... and I am not that; I am nearly 20 and couldnt give a f**k about how many 'likes' I get on statuses and pictures haha but girls will judge that and presume how popular I am because of it. For any replys thank you in advance.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (2 February 2013):
 I do this all the time. Tease her about her profile pic her profession or even her like pages. Do it in a respectful fashion n a wink. Nothing mean. A neg. Make a comment about one of her pics n ask a question. For ex one time I saw a hottie n her cover pic was graffiti I asked where the pic was taken and who was the artist then the convo flowed into art n music. Whatever you do dont say anything about looks or she'll think you're after her. In my opinion attractive women know they're attractive. Whereas we men dont need to kiss their ass. Good luck,
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2013): I think it's a good idea!
Just start a friendly conversation, and see where it goes from there.
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reader, R1 +, writes (2 February 2013):
 I know a lot of teenage girls who seem to meet men this way. I've always advised them to be wary as people aren't what they seem. I find it quite an odd way to go about dating but I suppose it's not a long way from dating sites and as I said its popular amongst teenagers.
I think it's not all about how you look with girls, it's about personality so if you are going to inbox her make sure it is a well written message!
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reader, jdxx +, writes (2 February 2013):
 The best and easiest way to start up a conversation is by inboxing her with something funny relating to one of her status', a simple wise crack to get her interested :) then from there the rest is easy! Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2013): To be perfectly honest, I wouldn't respond to a stranger messaging me on facebook, no matter how many mutual friends we had. If I don't know them, I don't care if a friend or family member knows them. I've had it happen before, and I find it rather creepy. Then again, I'm a person who likes to keep to myself, and I only have my family and close friends on my friend list. And I only have 2 pictures of myself posted.
Maybe others would have a different opinion, though. Is she one of those women that posts a ton of pictures of herself, and is constantly updating her statuses? If so, then she would probably like the attention because she is probably seeking it.
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reader, kerryelizabeth +, writes (1 February 2013):
I'm an 18 year old and being "facebook famous" means nothing to me. I don't think I'd ever even heard of it before you mentioned it haha.
I've made loads of friends on Facebook. Just send her a message saying "hey we've been friends for a while and we've never spoken, I'm ______". Keep it casual and see what happens from there. Like you say, she'll either find you attractive or she won't. The worst that could happen is that you end up friends instead of more than that, and that's not really all that bad at all :)
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reader, Yos  +, writes (1 February 2013):
 - Find out who here real friends are that you have in common. The REAL ones. Then hang out with them and meet her in person. That's a much better way to meet.
- Don't use the word f**k so much without good reason. She probably won't find it attractive ;)
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reader, person12345  +, writes (1 February 2013):
 I think it's weird to message someone you've never met. The only way I can possibly see this going anywhere is if you have one of your 80 mutual friends introduce the two of you.
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