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writes:My relation ended after five long years . We were studying together . Now he has changed his city n moved out . And we have broken apart cuss his parents aren't ready for us to marry as we av a different caste . So he has stopped talking to me , keeping any contact . I wan to ask , can I get him back to me . Il be meeting him in a friends wedding . How do I act n are their chances I can get him back cuss he says he wanted to be wid me but cuss of family pressures cannot do dat . It's very sad . Plz help me get him back wen we av no contact and stay in different cities. Tx
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reader, Jia123 +, writes (16 June 2010):
Jia123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYea I knw we are adults , I m ready but he's not n probably cuss I was too clingy n dependent on him . Now I've decided il move on n if he wants me back he will com else I av no option . In d wedding also I l ignore him n seem really happy n contended with my life so dat he knows I've moved on n he realizes my worth which he does not I feel . Is dis the right thing to do . Probably i might jus get him back also . Pls guide me . Tx a lot for ur answers .
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (16 June 2010):
 If he's cut contact with you, it may not be worth trying to get him back. And if you show him you want him back, you're laying yourself open to a lop-sided relationship.
Best move on, if my advice.
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reader, Auntie E +, writes (16 June 2010):
 Dear Jial - you are an adult and I assume he is too. I know a little bit about the caste system in India but I can tell you this - couples since Romeo and Juliette - have been going against family wishes. Sometimes resulting in tragedy sometimes successfully. In the 1930's Price Edward of Great Brittan(next in line to be King) abdicated the throne for the woman he loved, a divorced American named Wallis Warfield Simpson. He could not be king and married to her at the same time. Against the rules of the Church of England. He picked her. I'm here to tell you, his family was not happy about that either! That being said - speak with him at the wedding. If he feels the same way you do then start planning your next move. You are both adults, not children. It is time to start living your own lives.
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