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writes:My boyfriend and I had a fight and he basically moved out of my house, and won't talk or see me. He's a sulker, and is still fighting the ghosts of his last relationship, and has done this once before, but it wasn't this severe. The last time he did it, he said he needed space and distance. We didn't talk/see each other for 3 days. So far it's been two days since i've seen/spoken to him. This is devastating for me, as i miss him so much. How much time is enough 'space' before i should try contacting him? If i try to talk to him before he's ready, it won't go over well, but this not seeing/being with him really hurts. The last time it happened, he approached me, but like i said, it wasn't this bad, he didn't move out, he just left.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2009): Just leave the place and live happily ever after without this guy. He's already gone and he's not healthy for you.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (15 May 2009):
Send him an email or a text, something he doesn't have to respond to straight away.
Just ask him... "Look I need to know if I need to move out of here because I can't afford it on my own. If I don't hear from you by the end of the weekend then I will assume you are not coming back and it's over and I should move on." Tell him you love him and miss him first but be straight and strong about this.
Give him a deadline. So he can sulk all weekend but he HAS to talk to you by Sunday or he'll lose you.
I know it's tough but being in a relationship with a guy who punishes you like this is HORRIBLE. I certainly would never do it again.
If you email him then send him a text telling him you have emailed him and he needs to read it. This way he can't deny all knowledge when he comes crawling back in a few weeks time.
If you don't hear from him by Sunday then I know it's hard but you have to move on. I doubt this fight was 100% your fault so why should he be the one to have all the power over all the decisions.
Good Luck!! xx
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