A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I got into an argument on Monday, it was a petty argument and actually quite stupid now that I think about it. Later that day on Monday, I texted him asking to talk about it since I really prefer not to take arguments into bed. However, he texted me back saying "Sorry I don't think this is the right time, I'm turning my phone off." I texted him again before I slept that day and got no reply.The next day, on Tuesday I texted him again and he finally replied with "I'm not giving you the silent treatment, I just need some time and space." I didn't reply to that and decided that time is probably the best thing I could give and so we haven't had any contact since.Finals season is approaching and I've learnt that he has been pulling consecutive all nighters these two days, probably to study. I also found out that he was online in the early morning (2-7am) when he knew that I was asleep, yet he does not go online in the day at all. (I did see him online in the morning today but he went offline as soon as I did) However I know him well enough to say that he does not usually pull all nighters unless he is very stressed or it is absolutely necessary for school but his exams are more than a week away! But if he's stressed, why wouldn't he want to talk about it? I understand that sometimes guys need the space and time to themselves to sort things out in their heads, but all this silence is starting to persuade me that he's never going to come out of his shell to start talking to me. I am not mad, I really just want to sit down and talk about it, put it in the past and carry on but he's not giving me an opportunity. :(So it all started Monday and now it's Wednesday and there has still been no communication between us. (Last thing he told me was that he needed time/space) I want to give him the time and space he needs but at the same time I don't want to overly drag the issue on unnecessarily. Should I call him if he doesn't initiate contact with me in X days? Or should I just keep waiting? Advice is greatly appreciated!
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reader, Miss_AF  +, writes (2 December 2010):
Hello.. I say u give him space and if he doesnt come back, well he just wasnt worth it. I know its hard as i dont take my own advice as i am going through the same thing, my bf want space and i wont give it to him, he says its makes him love me even less, so i guess u r doing something by not bugging him or u wil fall into my footsteps.. He is doesnt call, u will slowly forget about him, do not make him ur priority as u dont seem to be his as he sounds like he has other things on his mind. and with being online at nite, i would wonder who he is talking to?
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