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writes:I want to know how much sex is normal for a couple after being married for 10 years.Give me realisitic figures please.Thank you. Reply to this Question
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reader, Sandman  +, writes (29 October 2008):
 Oh, why didn't you say so! LOL!
Well, when my wife and I were just dating, we did it like rabbits. Couldn't get enough - it was probably somewhere around 4-5 times per week.
But after getting married, it waned ... A LOT! It dropped to *maybe* once per week or so. Sometimes when we were really horny we might get twice per week - but that became a rare occasion.
Not sure why it was like that, but that's the way it was. And interestingly enough, neither of us really complained about not getting enough. At some point, I guess we felt we didn't need to have sex to show we loved each other.
Ironically, we're divorced. So maybe I should have been trying to have more sex instead of being happy with once a week (I set that number by the way - I didn't have a very high libido). Maybe things would have been different.
Hope this helps.
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reader, elizstar  +, writes (28 October 2008):
After 10 years its probably related on the the time you have between work and children. If you have the opportunity to do it anytime now I guess it would be alone, in the evening, or night yes? It's unfortunate but it's only going to be once or twice a month if you want to be a bit wild. It's good if you can plan ahead, send sexy messages get in the mood days before, Best wishes
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2008): I'm the original poster of this qs..i forgot the confirmation number when i posted as anonymous.
What I really meant was how frequently are different married couples doing it.If you've been married for 10 yrs, please give me some numbers.We as a couple want to find out and rate ourselves....thank you.
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reader, Sandman +, writes (28 October 2008):
"Normal" is whatever you and your husband defines "normal" as.
One couple may find that once a day is normal vs. another couple who will think once a week is normal.
Whatever the frequency of sex - if both parties are satisfied with the curret amount of sex and do nor desire it to be more or less, that is what is normal for them.
I suspect there is a reason you may ask this question. Maybe you or your husband desires more sex. Or maybe you or your husband desires less sex. Either way, it seems that it may be causing a bit of tension in your relationship. IF this is the case, simply sit down with your husband and talk about your feelings, wants, and desires. See if the two of you can't come to some sort of compromise. If it is too much, see if you can't compromise on a lesser amount that makes you both happy. If it is not enough sex, see if you can't compromise on a great number that makes you both happy. The key here is making sure you are both happy.
Hope this helps.
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reader, easternkygirl +, writes (28 October 2008):
it really depends on yours and your husbands sex drive. whether or not you have children can affect it also. i myself have been married for almost 11 yrs and normally have sex 2 to 3 times a week. it may be different for different people. we would probably have sex more often if the children didn't get up after putting them to bed, or from being tired and exhausted at the end of the day from work, household duties, and taking care of the kids. i don't know if this answer was helpful or not, but i hope i was able to give you some kind of idea of whats normal. take care and best wishes.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (28 October 2008):
 Define "normal" when it refers to human sexuality.
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