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writes: You know when you totally all the way fell for, just flat out lost your mind in love with someone, then you lose them? I am still in love with someone I lost one week ago: I can't listen to music or wake up or go to sleep without yearning for him. As a practical matter, it's good it's over, but how much longer is this pesky pain of the loss and even worse, the agonizing WANT to be with him going to torment me? I get asked out every day by all kinds of people and am incredibly blessed with lots of work, and still, memories of him distract me. How do I get rid of this annoying, wrenching, love and ache for him? Oh god, thanks for reading this, and thanks a LOT if you reply! Reply to this Question
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reader, Bleudancer  +, writes (28 October 2010):
I wish I could give you an exact date as to when those feelings will go away but it's just not possible! I do know that they wont go away if you focus on them! It's like waiting for water to boil, go find something to do until you hear that bub bub bubbling of the released oxygen hitting the water's surface! Keep yourself busy, focus on your friends/family and bettering yourself (which is something we all need to do.) Pick up a hobby and use this situation as the excuse to try out new things or eat whatever you want...(ex. I'm going to make 20 kinds of Halloween cupcakes with all of this free time I have and because I'm sad over this break up/ whatever you want to call it... actuality: you may really like cupcakes (muahahahaha)... i know i do... a lot... mmmm... ) You obviously know it was the right thing to do and focus on that moment of clarity! A lot of people just ignore those moments and just prolong the inevitable..Ask your friends to remind you of his faults and praise you for getting over him and being such an amazing catch! So what, you may not be over him but you will be and you wont even remember when it happened because of this technique! Motivation from loved ones is vital here!You're going to be just fine, I know because I will be too,we all will,oh god... will we?just kidding, of course we will! =)
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