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writes:I have an ordinary size dick and I spoke to a Doctor about it once. He said that there wasn't really anything that can be done about it. His exact words were... "you are what you are and there's nothing we can do to change that."I want an honest answer. Do women prefer guys with big dicks? And if so, how much does it matter?I know that guys usually prefer women with reasonable size breasts. So let's forget all this political correctness, and be honest.Sorry about the wording of this question. The problem is I'm not sure if penis is spelt that way, or if it's penus.Would a woman prefer a guy who had a handsome face, or a considerable size dick? And do they talk about this behind our backs?
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reader, Stonemason  +, writes (9 July 2010):
 It's important to believe the women who write answers here: why should they be lying? Size is unimportant.
However, I think they've forgotten to consider appearance: bigger looks better, more interesting, more "harrowing," so to speak.
Bigger breasts, smaller waists--we're all greedy for the best, when it comes to mere thinking.
Reality is something else. An enthusiastic, loving, affectionate partner who adores only you is the greatest thing on earth. No woman ever complained my 6" one was too short.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2010): It doesnt matter its how you feel about the person...sex is as much as a mental thing as it is physical.
I once had a bf that was alot smaller than the average guy and this is the truth, the fact that he was in contact with me did it for me. I look back on sex with him as one of the best experiences Ive had.
My husband now is prob what ppl would say is average and its the same story, I cant get enough of him. Sex with him is far from average :-)
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reader, Elydiese  +, writes (8 July 2010):
you asked for honesty from people then you say some answers are cruel, dont say you want honesty then argue with it
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reader, Serpico +, writes (8 July 2010):
Sorry - something doesnt sound right. You go to talk to a doctor about your "average" size penis, but then say its all about "inner beauty?"
If its all about inner beauty - why would you even bother to ask a doctor about your willy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2010): You wanted honesty. I discovered after 20 years of being with the same partner, and now with a sexually active woman who has had much bigger than me, that I am for the first time, insecure about my size. I'm 6" and almost 6" girth. Not big at all except maybe for girth, but I get the job done well. I'm convinced after doing way too much research and obsessing (and a lot of help from Tisha...Tisha, I love you baby) that MOST women do not care as long as you aren't a cocktail weenie or a baseball bat. Do women downplay their secret longings for a larger specimen...I think they do. But they do so becuase they know we obsess over it, and they do not...so instinctively, they're not going to jeapordize a good relationship over an inch or 3 of flesh. THey may fantasize, but we all do. I'll be honest that even I prefer pornos that feature a big guy...not because I'm into guys, but because it's arousing to see a woman take it all. I think women fantasize about the same thing...taking all of a large guys masculinity or prowess. But all love is opportunity, and all people are opportunists. we take the best out of all situations...enough good stuff, and we are happy. Not enough, we move on. Boob size is always a good analogy. Yes, boobs do not go inside you, but they do somewhat represent feminity, sexuality and all that. But MOST guys don't care...they want the whole package...ass, pussy, tits, mouth, and hopefully, heart, soul, brain and love. Learn to love your assets. In my case, it's girth. I'll never have a 9 inch cock, but I also don't want to cervix-box women to death, bottom out all the time, or miss out on the clit-rubbing, ball smacking fun of having an average johnson. If women like the look or feel of a big cock, they will either tell you or leave you, leaving you free to find that girl who likes average...or even small. So in the end, it all works out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSome of these answers are very cruel. I did say that I prefer women with reasonable size breasts. But I think it is the inner beauty with women that is the most important. If a woman has inner beauty, and a vagina, she's alright with me.Inner beauty is the most important of all.
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reader, Megeroonie +, writes (8 July 2010):
My man has an amazing dick. Idk what size it is but it ain't small. It's like the perfect size.
If you know how to use what you've got then don't be ashamed. If it's too big it'll hurt really bad if you push it all in or do it real rough. My man taught me that. Ha.
Ohh && if you screw over a girl she'll prob tell all her friends you have a tiny weenie! So be smart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2010): Being brutally honest here - bigger is better.
But, it's willingness to please that counts. Average size but with great moves will get you much further than just having a big dick.
Do girls talk about the size of a recent shag? Haha ... is water wet?! Size, girth, stamina, moves, body etc all gets discussed.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (7 July 2010):
 I've written on this topic here before. I've got a couple of links for you to read:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-she-lying-about-her-size-preferences.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-theory-is-that-all-men-exaggerate-so.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/its-not-the-size-but-how-you-use.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/pain-free---free-of-charge-way.html
Personality. Willingness to please her. Those are way more important than penis size. Don't fall into the trap of thinking that a sexual encounter revolves entirely around your penis. I know, it's the core of your sexuality, but it isn't the core of hers.
And maybe a few talk about penis size, but those would be the ones who judge a man by the size of his wallet as well. More the party girl type. The vast majority of women I know do not talk about penis size. I'm sure most men would be devastated to learn how little we talk about your performance in bed.
Take this off your "to worry about" list.
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2010): I have little experience, and the guy I was with was average. It was good enough for me. But speaking with my more experienced friends, well they've said size does make a bit of a difference. Thickness is more important, though. You can have a guy with a very lengthy penis, but thin, and it won't do much, as opposed to a guy with a shorter, but thicker penis. In the end you want something from both, a bit thick and a bit long, but neither HUGE or tiny.
If I have a handsome man with an ordinary sized penis like you put it, and an ugly guy with a bog penis, I'll choose the first. Of course. Women care a lot more about a pretty face!
Is that honest enough for you? I mean you mention how men prefer large breasts. I have small ones. Am I offended? Yes. But you say that's the truth and I'll say it back. Yes, size matters, nobody wants a pinkie sized dick.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2010): Yes, of course, women like a bigger sized (though not huge) dick. Thicker more so than length. It fills them up more, makes them feel more satisified. I am a little above average (7 inches), and have been with experienced women. One GF had just dated a guy nine inches+, and she would whimper remembering/missing the size of him. We would joke about it (... a little, though she was serious). But she also dated a guy who was the size of a thumb, who didn't satisfy her at all. So be grateful your average and not thumb-sized. My wife isn;t that experienced, and I'm the biggest she's had, but I also bought her a thick vibrator, and let me tell you, if she had to choose between me and the vibrator, I'd be packing my bags! Ha! So, yes, of course, a woman loves a big one, and people will say, oh, it's more than just the size of the wand, etc., but you asked a direct question. The answer is straight-forwardly a resounding yes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2010): most caucasian women prefer 6" - 7" long and proportionately thick. But some women are also small down there same as us men, if you are smaller than the afore mentioned size try to find a woman who is also small there. Anyway women who find you too small for their liking usually dump you after first sex.
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reader, Elydiese +, writes (7 July 2010):
I personally wouldnt prefer bigger as it can actually be quite painful for women if guys are well endowed and i can probably vouch for half the women on here
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reader, LilPixie +, writes (7 July 2010):
 First off, it's penis...
My current boyfriend is the only person I've ever slept with so I don't know what it would feel like to be with someone bigger or smaller but I'm one of those people who think that it doesn't matter how big you are, it's what you do with it that counts.
I'm sure that some women/ girls will talk about the size and performance of the guy but I've never done that and never will. I think it's something personal that no one else needs to know about.
That's just my opinion though, I don't know about anyone else... Hope this has helped.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2010): Depends on the type of girl. Just as men talk about the size of a woman's boobs. Some women are looking for a lay and need a big dick because she is sleeping around so much small ones "won't satisfy." But just as a women with small boobs is just as likely to find a relationship, so is a man with a small penis. Fact is the vagina is not that big. SO a super long penis doesn't even fit all the way. Stop worrying. Sex feels good... big or small.
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