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writes: Hey everyone,just wondering... me and my boyfriend see each other about 4 days a week i usually stay over and we just do things together...he says that we see each other too much and that's why sometimes we fight (we don't fight often!) and that when we're not with each other i call him too much, i make 2 min calls to him every 4 hours, is that too much?but the thing is, when i call like twice a day or something once to see how he is, what he's doin and have a chat then once to say good nighty... unless he hasn't already! then he says that i'm not callin enough and that he thinks i'm mad at him for some reason =Si've asked him how many times do u want me to call:S ur a confusin boy! and he jus says 'i dunno babe, i like u callin jus not every 5 mins' (exaggeration)how many times do u call ur bf/gf? includin txts n stuff... we rarelyy fight, we've been together for about 2 years and we've been through a whole lot of mess, and for this year it's jus all come together for us, it's good =) i just think it'd be jus perfect if we didn't hav random fights about lil things that don't matter so much that's all...wb.x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2007): Hi Hunny,
You cant do right for doing wrong eh!
Well dont call him every hour or 2 just give him a text to say your thinking of him occationally and call him the twice a day and see how it goes from there.
Ive got 2 boys so I no what a pain in the arse they can be at times bless them.
My son always makes me laugh women! women! women!
Oh dear to many I say, No he doesnt understand them sometimes even though most of his mates are girls...And I think he forgets im a woman!
His phone never stops but will he turn it off, no just incase he misses the latest episode of whatever soap opera im in...
Hunny why not say to him you "phone me when you want to love then I will no not to over do it" casual and see how this works its hit and miss love, I dont mean hit him ok!!!! I hope you work this out as he obviously misses your calls or he wouldnt say so when you dont phone...
Confusing eh!
Good luck hunny hope this helps a little with love mandy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (19 December 2007):
 My husband and I usually call each other once or twice a day. I also know couples who travel for two weeks and call their husband once. I guess normal is whatever is normal for you. How often do you call your best friend or your Mom. How often is he talking on the phone with others? If you can get him to sit down and talk about it, you can probably come up with a figure between you that he doesn't think is unreasonable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2007): I will be honest with you. He's just not in to you. If a guy is inlove, he will go out of his way to talk to you. He's not. So that means he is at a point of complacancy... meaning, he doesn't care coz he knows you'll always be there to give him so much attention.
In terms of the call, it depends. Do you call to "check on him"? Or do you call and say things like "Maybe we should go to dinner at so and so restaurant, just to try it out".
If you call too often, and check on him, and demand that he engage in conversation, it communicates that you have nothing better to do, that you depend on him emotionally too much, and that you have a low self esteem. Men are not attracted to women who have low self esteem. We only use women with low self esteem when we ourselves found us in a moment of low self esteem. We sleep with women who have low self esteem to boost our own.
He's not in to you. Don't call him for four weeks straight. And if he wants to hang out, have the courage to say No here and there. Communicate to him that you have a life as well.
Even though you do have a life right now, and just go out of your way to communicate affection, your boy is too arrogant and thinks he's all that. So he brushes you off and makes him feel more wanted. Don't give it to him. Let him strive for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2007): If 4 days (or nights) together is too much for him, I quite wonder how things would be if you moved in together and had 7.
I think if he was that hooked on you and that serious about you he'd want to be with you all the time and he'd be only too pleased to have you call him at any time.
However, I suppose a lot depends on what he's doing when you call, like if he's busy at work or something which could get irritating if he gets distracted, or if his boss doesn't like it during working hours.
Why not ask him firstly if he wants you to call him during the day, and if he does, at what time. Alternatively tell him when it would be good for him to call you if he wants to.
Phil
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