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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2012): My ex boyfriend of three and a half years, took the end of the very first date we had to ask me to be his girlfriend and he only took me out to a movie and we didn't talk much at all. I said no because it was way too soom and that sounded kind of desperate but he kept asking me at the end of every single date and finally wore me down at the end of a month. However, he was extremely thirsty for that and I don't expect all guys to behave like this so I'd give it 4-6 weeks, the latest 6-8 weeks depending on how often you two see each other and talk. When you know what you are looking for such as a wife, a fling, sex partner, girlfriend etc you put it all on the line up front. Defintely talk to him about it. If it doesn't upgrade you to his girlfriend then haul ass out there!!!
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (27 November 2012):
 Hi
I would expect to be exclusive after 6-8 weeks if spending more than one or two dates a week with them
Definately before you have sex -
Ask him
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reader, Nicki789  +, writes (27 November 2012):
I would think around 3 months. Eight months is a long time, and the talk should have already happened. I would question the point of the relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2012): Whenever you feel it's time to do so. If that time is now talk to him/her about it.
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reader, SensitiveBloke +, writes (27 November 2012):
 You've been dating for 8 months and you're still not exclusive? Well if he's not sure by now he never will be, so talk to him about it.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (27 November 2012):
 It takes as long as it takes.
IF you want it exclusive you need to talk to him about it.
You do not have to wait for him to make the choice. just be prepared for him to say NOT INTERESTED in EXCLUSIVE...
or worse... agree to it and not really mean it.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (27 November 2012):
 I would say within the first maybe 2 months if you see a lot of each other and DEFINITELY before having sex. You kind of know if this is a person you want to be with all the time or not after 2 months time - maybe not "forever" with but definitely date exclusively.
A relationship doesn't automatically become exclusive these days. So TALK to him.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (27 November 2012):
 If you are the one wanting exclusivity, you don't let a guy dictate when he feels like being exclusive. For me, I take time finding the right guy, and when it feels right, we are exclusive within 3 dates. You decide whether the guy is wasting your time when you feel you've been waiting too long.
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