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writes:Hi,How soon would you say it is to inadvertadly hit on someone after they have broken up with their ex? I like someone who has come out of a long term relationship (no children or marriage) but I'm unsure how long to leave it before suggesting going out? Admittedly, I didn't realise they were broken up when we first started flirting, my bad for trying to get with someone who I thought was actually married (but wasn't). So we've flirted, been out just as friends but our conversations are getting more 'relationship like' so I was after some advice. I think they've been broken up for 6 months if that helps
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (9 September 2013):
 IF you are interested then ask them out... the worst thing they can say is "i'm not dating yet"
but then they will know when they are ready that you are interested.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (8 September 2013):
 Isn't it all individual? I think the rule of thumb is one month of recovery time post-split per year of dating.
So at the 6 month mark they are recovering from a 6 year relationship then you are good to go….. and you see how ridiculous that sounds.
You are perfectly within the bounds of human decency to ask out a person who has been single for 6 months. No one has grounds to judge or harass you on the timing. There are no children or marital bonds with which to deal.
If you are fine with trying to get with a married person then there's probably not all that much of a difference with trying to get with a person who is 6 months single.
What's the downside if you ask him/her out?
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