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anonymous
writes:I am 36 and was divorced a few years ago. Since my divorce I have had a few relationships (one lasted over a year)and lots of dates. All of the women I met and dated were smart, funny, generally fine and for the most part they like me much more than I liked them. I felt had I been with any one of them I could have had a nice life and have been happy, but I never felt that crazy, giddy, butterfly feeling like I had when I met my ex-wife or my first love. I started thinking that older age, post divorce relationships might just be this way.Recently I met a woman who makes me giddy and excited. We have been on five dates now over about five weeks. I text her and wish her good morning and good night and usually we exchange an email daily. We have a great time on our dates and although we haven't had sex our kisses and touching seem intimate. If you can read between the lines: I am totally smitten with this girl.Here are my questions: how can I tell if she feels the same about me back? How long is normal to wait to see someone exclusively? How long is normal to wait to have sex? Also, do you have some advice for me so I can help her know how much I like her without scaring her away? Does it seem ironic the past women were probably asking these same questions and the world has a way of making me eat some humble pie?!Thanks.
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reader, gmoney +, writes (29 June 2010):
Youll kno but for rite now your probably going in a lil too slow or too fast u gotta feel her out n when ur kissin n huggin dont b scared to go to 4th base lol but long as she resist and your both on the same page
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reader, Universe Man +, writes (29 June 2010):
"Help her know how much I like her without scaring her away."
This to me is one of the most mysterious differences between men and women. Men always want to pour their guts out to women and tell them how beautiful they are and how much they like them. I am including myself in this generalization. To not gush over a girl I really like takes every bit of willpower I've got. I know from past experience that unless we are in a serious, committed relationship, verbalizing feelings like that scares girls away.
Women, in my experience, are very much the opposite. It is an extraordinarily rare occasion for a woman to put into words just how much she likes me, and this includes a long-term girlfriend who would have married me at the drop of a hat. Basically, if they make time for me, they like me. If they don't, they don't.
"How long is normal to wait to see someone exclusively?"
I tend to think this should just happen organically. If you are each setting aside time for the other, you're probably not going to have lots of time for dating other people. Eventually, you won't have much time at all.
"How long is normal to wait to have sex?"
Beats me. I do know that if you don't push for it fast, then you will seem different and mysterious to her. And I feel like different and mysterious is generally a good thing.
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reader, canttoleratebs +, writes (29 June 2010):
There isnt an amount of time to become exculsive, its whenever two consenting adults are on the same accord. As long as you two have mutual feelings about being exculsive then enjoy each other, dance in the rain, and love like you have never been hurt. Good Luck, and dont sweat the small stuff.
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