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writes:Hello everyone.I have a question.I have had sex for the first time recently. I lost my virginity on August 1st. Since then we have had sex once or twice a week.He can fit inside me and we have sex no problem. But it still feels a little uncomfortable for me when he enters. Not when he is inside but when he is entering me. I am wondering how long it takes for this feeling to go away and for me to really start enjoying it.We have a very good sex life and strong chemistry and connection. He was the guy I wanted to be my first. No regrets.Does anyone have any similar experiences or advice for me?I hope it is not something abnormal or uncommon when you lose your virginity.Nobody has ever been in there before and it is probably still a bit tight... But I am aroused and it is not a question of being too dry. I wonder if it takes a little time to loosen up?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2013): In my own experience, it did take a little time for me to start enjoying it, for me, the first few times was quite uncomfortable and painful, but after a little time and more sex, I loosened up and could enjoy sex!
So just give yourself time and take it easy until it becomes more comfortable.
I'm sure it's different for different girls, but I'd imagine it does take time for your " to adjust to a new object!
But you're perfectly normal, just give yourself time and don't do anything too crazy for the first few times until you're more comfortable!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2013): Tightness down there has nothing to do with you not having sex before, it has a lot to do with your age and because this is just how your are. There are smaller vaginas and there are bigger, just like penis sizes, that's all. Also tightness there might be because of you not relaxing enough, and contracting muscles. You might be wet but still contract muscles especially now since you know this first moment is uncomfortable, you might contract your muscles even more in anticipation. Actually this first moment when you get accustomed to it is supposed to be one of the most pleasant and sensual. The fact that you are not enjoying it that much is because of you not able to relax completely. it will come in a future. For women sex doesn't feel the same as for men. We need to get use to it and go through quite a bit of uncomfortable moments before we figure out what we like. Also it's very much depends on a partner. My first boyfriend was very much inexperienced same as me. He wouldn't even touch me with his fingers there, oral was completely out of the picture. For quite sometime I was wondering what is the big deal it is with sex that everyone are so excited about. I didn't know what orgazm was, my boyfriend of course always had his. I was uncomfortable as you are as sex didn't give me much pleasure.Until we broke up, and I had a lover who was 10 year older and was very good, and knew what he was doing.
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reader, Aunty Babbit  +, writes (23 August 2013):
 You are not in the least bit abnormal hun and congratulations on finding such a lovely bf.
It just takes a little bit of time and with all things, practice makes perfect ;)
I don't know if you've experimented with positions but if not, the missionary position is ok but the reverse missionary (or cowgirl) can give you a bit more control over penetration making the initial entry less uncomfortable. There are others to try if that one doesn't appeal.
Either way you're perfectly normal and are gonna have a lot of fun experimenting x
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