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writes:How is it that anyone can find love, but love doesnt find everyone? If theres someone 4 everyone, why is it that some never find anyone? Reply to this Question
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reader, hannah76  +, writes (10 July 2011):
 I don't believe in that there is someone for everyone. It's only a myth or an old wive's tale. Some people "never" meet that special person. Maybe the person didn't exist, maybe they turned a different path and never met, maybe they were born too early or too late to meet. Some people never find their "someone". Time, chance, place and the gods all come into play.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2011): Maybe love is not to be found but given then it is received.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (10 July 2011):
 Who hasn't been found yet? I don't know of anyone who hasn't experienced love in their life, and if they don't have it in their life at the moment it is their choice to be without it. More lifestory is needed here in order to see what's actually going on.
As for the cute romantic idea of "someone for everyone" or "a soulmate", forget about that. Relationships or love don't land on your head one shiny afternoon. They take work, effort, dedication, willpower, and you wanting it. There's no "someone" walking around out there looking for you or waiting for you, there's just a big bunch of people, and a matter of figuring out who you are more compatible with, and who wants the same thing that you do. Love can be developed between near any individuals. It's a chemical thing in your brain that attaches you to a person, it's a human instinct to bond. It's not some light from above heaven sent that "finds" you.
If someone haven't experienced love my guess is that they are spending too much time sitting alone in their room, and too little time connecting to other human beings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2011): Love is actually not as common as people think. Considering how the entertainment industry pretty much revolves about love (movies, books, song lyrics, magazine articles, etc.) it is easy to get under the impression that everybody falls in love, and that is far from the truth. Even though most people are dating and getting married, not all of them are actually in love. Lots of couples are together because of other reasons (not to be lonely, security, fun, sex, social expectations, etc) and not because they are truly in love with each other.
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reader, N91 +, writes (10 July 2011):
 How hard are you looking?
Join local clubs that interest you, dating websites, take up a new hobby - I know it can be hard at times my friend, sometimes it's enough for you to become so down about it that you don't want to bother anymore.
You're right, there is somebody out there for everyone, but you've got to make a serious effort, it doesn't just fall into your lap, you have to make something happen.
Hope this helps - Good luck!
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