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writes:What I don't understand is when women tell you to accept yourself, that you're enough, and then they say to keep trying to improve yourself. That doesn't make sense to me. If you truly believed you were enough, then you wouldn't bother improving because it would feel like such a waste of time. It's like being at home dressed comfortably in whatever untrendy thing. If you made a conscious effort everyday to look your very best (at home), you would go 'phfft, why am I doing this?'Is it really all about how women are turned on? They get used to whatever level you've got and they want you to keep beating their expectations/standards/sense of normalcy?Is there some other explanation that makes more sense? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2010): Rather than think of it as either/or, think of it as both. We can accept ourselves just the way we are, and love ourselves as we are, and seek to expand or improve ourselves, fulfill our potential, in different areas. The two are not mutually exclusive. Be yourself, and seek to be even better, despite being happy with who you are right now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2010): I'm the op!
My question was more about vanity, i.e. becoming better just to be more attractive. But is 'improving' actually just about DOING SOMETHING, e.g. having a purpose, mission, or a goal?
In other words, is 'improving' really about having an ambition, overcoming obstacles?
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reader, LLindy87  +, writes (6 September 2010):
 I think you're turning mountains into molehills here. No person is perfect so there is always room for self-improvement. it should be considered a good thing if someone is trying to improve yourself...it shows they like themselves, that they want to reach their potential, etc.
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