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writes: I'm a person who worries a lot about what other people think and tend to base my own self esteem around their opinions of me. I hate the feeling of someone ignoring or disliking me because it makes me feel like there must be something wrong with me. Because of this i tend to be a bit of a doormat sometimes because i don't want to upset people.A guy i liked turned out to be the biggest asshole i have ever met. Looking back now it was obvious but i suppose i just didn't want to see it. Turns out he's a "player" and probably has a different woman in his bed most nights. I slept with him, which i very much regret because he was the first guy i'd been with. Seeing as i pretty much had no prior experience with guys i didn't see the warning signs or know what to expect. Turns out he just wanted sex but i carried on sleeping with him anyway because i liked him.A few months go by and he starts to ignore me. I thought he was just busy but it turned out he'd gotten a girlfriend and failed to mention it. I was very upset but pretended i didn't care. A few months into his relationship with this other girl he starts texting me and saying he wants to fool around again (behind her back). I told him to stop being a d*ck and that he can't have me if he's with her. I told him this on facebook about 2 weeks ago and since then he hasn't spoken a word to me. I couldn't stand the silence anymore so i said "hi" a few days ago and he just replied "hi :)" then ignored me. I know i shouldn't care that he's not talking to me because he's a complete asshole but i can't stand it. How do i just stop caring and forget him once and for all?
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (12 May 2011):
 I think you do believe he is an asshole, You refused him sex because you didn't want to be used and you didn't want to cheat on his GF, you pretended you didn't care what he thought, you figured out he was a player. You told him to stop being a dick. I say you've graduate with flying colours from romance 101. huge kudos to you girl powered girl that you are.
I don't think you need to know how to stop caring for him.
I think you need to continue to grow and start caring for yourself. So far excellent work on your part. You can now proceed to taking care of your love life and future romances.
You'll forget him when you get into you.
Put this one on your "ignore for life" list.
The next one will be so much more your style.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2011): The best way to forget a guy is to meet a new one. Plenty of cuties out there. Focus your attention on the guy's who are around you (who are not him). You start meeting new guys and new people and that will get your attention off of this guy.
And don't worry about this guy. Dating is a learning experience. Now you know stuff about guy's that you didn't know before (for instance, when a guy is "busy" time and time again, it usually [99.9%] means he is dating another chick.) You see? You live and learn. And most if not probably all women have dated a guy just like this at one point in their lives. So you are not alone.
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reader, love sux  +, writes (12 May 2011):
pls tell me the answer too ,, exactly same situation ,, i din't sleep with him though .. but it still hurts ,, it's been 1 yr since we separated .... we'r still frnds on fb ..
he doesn't evn hv gf ,, or maybe he does but i don't kno....
he calls me to say he misses me thn doesn't call bak ,, nd wn i call bak thn ignores me .... i mean wth ????
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