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writes:HI :],I have a couple of questions; I had been with my bf for 3 yrs, one day I decided to break it off with him because he was very possesive. I started dating this other man (Levi) he invited me to a crawfish broil, i met his friends...but it was like stepping into a twilight zone; he would apologize for his car, his house, everything; and he would feel the need to have to tell me who all he slept with at the party; i thought he was insecure...anywho..he was a tutor at my school age 31 was married but had gotten divorced 3 yrs prior after 4 months...he took me out during lunch every day, and would see me every night after work for an hr at the park or whatever..some days we'd go to his house and have sex, and we hung out during the weekend...my ex ended up calling the school to complain, but levi told me he was staff and nothing could happen...his boss had a meeting with him and he seemed really worried...i ended up ending it with him...he called this one week fling a relationship....and would make references to marriage "if we got that far" even when i stated that im 20 and have no interest in marriage or kids lol...my ex ended up going to the school the saturday before his meeting to talk to levi...which annoyed me...a couple weeks later.. i wanted to see if he was still interested he told me he thought he was ready for a relationship but thought wrong, and that he wasnt going to jepordize his job which is understandable..a week later i hook up with of my friends (dara) who i knew had a fling with Levi, i read all the text he sent to her, he owed her 3,000$ that she lent him...he would lie about having leukemia, and being bank rupt...he even moved so he didnt have to pay...(this was after i spoke with him)...he saw dara two times out of the week just for sex, would change plans on her...with me he would hold off on hanging with his friends to spend time with me....he never called dara a relationship, after 4 months when she wanted one he ran...he ended up making rumors about her, saying she was psychotic and that she took advantage of him (wow)...he doesnt have many friends, if they do they have problems, he isolates himself and reads all the time, very dull, no sense of humor, he said he was a nurse and was let off because of lack of compassion for people...he told my dad that (yea he met my family) he was an e7 in the Navy, which is a lie...he told me he applied for the FBI...I was blind, good thing it only lasted a week but it still bothers me...he creeps me out now...when he found out that i was with dara he changed his number and blocked me on facebook....lol....i dont know what he says about me...theres this other asian girl that he says is his stalker, when we were dating and that she needed an lobotomy...i know now that she was another fuck buddy like dara...my question would have be : what did he want from me? he saw me every day of the week whenever he could... If he liked me alot then why did he run and get paranoid? he told me that one of his closest friends said "you must really like her to be putting up with that" (the bf crap) i know it was a week, but its still confusing...later on i also realized that he was massivly the jealous type...he was ok with me (or hid it) hanging out with my ex 2 days out of that week till late at night...i wouldnt necessarliy respond back to some of his text...i did alot of manipulation that was wrong and immature but still hes a CREEP!..im just creeped out with what he saw in me? making marriage references the first week is weird....i just dont understand how if u like someone that much...how you could just drop it?? thanks sorry its long, i just need help:[
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reader, sociohelp +, writes (26 July 2010):
sociohelp is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you for your reply, i neeed to stop reading into things :[ lol
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (24 July 2010):
 It's sort of an idle question. This guy has amply shown you that he is a massive weirdo, a compulsive liar, and an emotionally unbalanced person - maybe not at a pathological level, but who knows.
Do you really expect consistency, seriousness of intents and depth of feelings from someone like him ?...
He got the hots for you according to some wacky scenario playing in his mind at the time, which was probably going to change had the fling lasted longer.
I wouldn't give it much thought if I were you- I know it's flattering to feel pursued and sought after, but... it only lasted a week !,we can't really talk about a "beginning " and an "end".
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