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writes: This question is for the guy"s reading,Let me explain situation some, i been dating a man for about a year now, everyhtig is great, absoulutly perfect actually, sex 3 times a week ,we talk hours on hours each day, But...i am a bit diffrent i am not one to touch on the subject of feelings at all,i try to say how i feel but i am worse then a male there i skirt the whole issue without actually saying those 3 words of i love you. He understands i am uncomfortable with it aswell,so he doesnt presure me about it but he will tease some.I wont pressure him on how he feels ,because i dont like talking about the subject myself,so a easy way to say it or a way to ask how it is without freaking either person out some and making it sound so ( gushy,mushy,life threatning )I was wondering, What is it a guy likes to hear or the way a guy wants to hear it so it doesnt sound so commited?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2006):
The problem with saying the words is that he might not feel ready to say them back- which makes for an awkward scene.
But do guys go around saying to each other- "hey lets be friends?" or "you're such a great bud" . Of course not- we just pick up on it from the way we behave."
You may want to say " I am so glad to be in your life" or "we are so good together". He'll get the message and there is no pressure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2006): That is a great question And to tell you the truth most girls say it and do freak out the guy. But it does depend on the type of guy. Me, for instance, if I actually love you then I will tell you and I dont mind hearing it back and yes she may mean she wants to be with me forever and I dont have a problem. Other guys hear love and they automatically think she means marriage. So what you should do is just tell him how you feel.... if you really do love him and really are all about finding if he is the one for you then he will understand because that is what dating is all about. On the other hand if he freaks out, not gets scared cause thats a whole nother issue, then he really doesnt want to have a real relationship with you. He may like you and just want sex thats about it. But if he knows what dating really is then he will be fine with you just saying I love you. Who knows maybe he is just waiting for the right time to tell you cause dont rush the words. They will come out when they need to.
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