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reader, Yos  +, writes (4 September 2010):
 You just have to come out and tell him. Try not to make it sound like a criticism (unless the sex really is bad) - something like: 'I love having sex with you, but with oral sex you are being a bit too rough with me'.
If you're struggling to be able to open your mouth and say something like this, try to create the right situation. You could also have the discussion over instant messenger, text, or even send an email if that's easier. Just start a vague conversation about sex, and then steer the conversation towards how you can both make it better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2010): Let me tell you a secret about us guys, we absolutely love to take directions during oral sex. We love to guided down there because it takes away the hassle of trying to find the right motion and pressure.
When he's down there softly tell him to slow down, be a bit lighter etc. trust me once he knows how you like it he'll be very happy because he's only down there to pleasure you and once he's able to do that he'll feel on top of the world.
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reader, mrvhappy  +, writes (4 September 2010):
Hi,
Just tell him that your ears are NOT handles..LMAO..:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2010): You could just say that you are finding oral sex a bit uncomfortable, and would prefer it if he was a bit more gentle. Or if you are concerned about hurting his feelings, you could maybe try saying that while you love it when he gives you oral sex and it feels great, it feels even better when he is more gentle. If he doesn't get the hint, I think you will just have to be clear with him, and tell him that you would like him to be more gentle.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2010): never be scared to tell your boyfrind anything. it makes you stronger. next time your boyfrind is giving you oral suggest his doing it a diffiernt way and when your enjoying it let him know its good and dont holld back, as soon as he knows hes doing it for you that way he will do it more often how you like it
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