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writes:There is a guy i've known for about 2 years now, i'd say we were quite good friends, but in the last year he keeps talking to me online and telling me that im beautiful and gorgeous, which is really nice and I do like compliments, he will also write short poems for me and tell me how much he loves me (we're not going out, but he has told me how much he likes me and cares about me but I dont want to be anything more than friends with him as I think it would ruin our friendship and i'm not interested in having a loving relationship with him and have told him that). It's really nice when he compliments me and writes things to me, but I just don't know what to say back when he says really nice things, if i get a compliment from him i'd usually say 'thank you' or 'aww thats sweet thanks' but I say it too often and I just dont know what to say now, any suggestions? I'd appreciate any advice and i'm looking forward to reading your answers! Reply to this Question
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reader, Odds  +, writes (1 June 2011):
 Compliments in general are easy: thank the guy, and offer a compliment in return if you have one.
I think this case is special, though. If he's writing poems for you, he really wants to date you, and you need to avoid leading him on. A lot of guys go through that phase, and the longer you let it build up, the more it'll hurt him in the end.
I know you've told him, but if he's still doing it, you need to tell him more firmly. If you're too soft about it, he'll think you're just playing hard to get. Thank him for the attention, but tell that while you'd be happy to set him up with one of your friends or play wingwoman for him, you're not interested and don't want to lead him on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your answers! :)
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