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writes:Dear Cupid,How does one make themselves feel better?I know this is a pathetic question, and some will say that it all depends on the individual, which is true.However, when one is feeling down in the gutters with a wounded heart and battered ego, how do you bring yourself up again. How do you put your mind back in a positive state of mind?Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2007): Healing things:
1.Stop thinking about the ex all the time. Thats right just stop. Do not allow your mind/emotions to control you.
2.Hard physical excercise-run, lift wieghts, work out hard.
3.Call a friend.
4.Watch funny movies
5.Read a good book.
6. Do something for someone else, help someone. Keeps the focus off yourself, very healing.
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reader, Pretty and proud  +, writes (6 February 2007):
 one word.... CHOCOLATE
no really try to get out and do things with friends or a nice lady friend whatever you do DO NOT mope around staring into space, hope this is of some help to you x
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reader, Jazmine-Louise +, writes (6 February 2007):
For a start, being heartbroken is one of the most difficult things one can go through but it is not impossible to recover from. I'm sure you are in great company when you say you have a battered ego. Do not feel as if you are the only one, you are reassured that you are not alone. You need to focus on the things that, in the past made you happy. Wether it was a certain hobby, a passion or a certain close friend. So in that case, get down to the gym, meet up with your friends more often. Start gaining back that indepenace you once lost and do the things you couldn't do when you were stuck in the previous relationship.
The feeling of personal acomplishment will overcome you and you will be so proud of yourself and what you have become.
Do not dwell on the past, because what is important now, is your future. And how happy you are going to be, when you succeed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2007): It's not a pathetic question at all.
You need to try and concentrate on thinking positive and constructive things. Even a happy person can end up feeling down and depressed if they make themselves think of negative things. You need to concentrate on your achievements in life.
With regards to your heartache, you need to understand that those happy times you experienced were happy because of something inside yourself, it was not from the person you were with; you created them. And so you will have those happy times again, when you are ready.
We also tend to feel that the latest relationship was "the one" but this is an illusion. There are many thousands of people on the planet that are compatible with you and can make you very happy. Love is not a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity, the heart is resilient and you will get your strength back and return to the person you were, but with added wisdom and experience of yourself, people and relationships.
A lot of people in these times find being around family and close friends who understand them very helpful and less alone. Perhaps you should try this.
I think you are going to be fine. Why? Because you at least know you usually have a positive state of mind. There are those that don't even have that, so they have nothing to aspire to. You know where you want to get to, and you will get there. Just allow yourself to release these painful feelings but be aware that they are temporary and a reaction and that they will fade - quicker than you think. All the best OK?
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reader, Jovial +, writes (6 February 2007):
 hi
You focus your energy on things that makes you happy and feel better about yourself. you must remember that life is not always the best place to be. so to raise that battered ego u need to appreciate yourself as a person, look at the things you have achieved and make yourself proud about the things you are to achieve and stay focussed. you might be feeling hopeless right now but the fact that you are still alive means there is still so much hope for you. another favour you can do for yourself is to forgive yourself and move past what happened this helps you to accept your past failures with dignity and hope for the future. do not entertain negative thoughts and stay away from people who brings you down they dont deserve you. good luck
jovial
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2007): if i knew the answer mate i wouldnt feel the same.just moving on and living life, what evers hurt you is only an episode in your long story, life goes on and can be changed to be better. just get out and have fun and forget whats hurt you.
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