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writes:How do you overcome commitment issues.I never really had problems commiting in the past, my last relationship was a disaster. It lasted five years and was wrong in every aspect he cheated I took him back, we had a baby things went well for awhile he cheated again hit me emotionally abused me said I was a pig ect no one would love me and I'm insecure. And that's just the short version.I have now been single for a few years, I've met people liked them dated them but I can't face getting into a relationship haven't even bothered with sex for years. I don't know what's wrong with me ive now come to a point where I'm asked out and I will just refuse lie and say I have plans that day. I feel afraid, I don't want to get hurt. But I would love to meet someone. But I can't even take that first step anymore.
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reader, Queenie2015 +, writes (23 September 2015):
 HelloIt seems that you have this deep rooted fear of being hurt. I can understand and empathise with you. The first thing I would suggest is to go and see your doctor to get counselling help. It appears you might be depressed.You can't live like this forever, humans are sociable beings and you deserve to be loved just as much as everyone does but that is not going to happen unless you get some help first. I'm sorry that o one has replied to your question yet, and I hope that this has not put you off speaking to us when you need to. You need to know that none of what happened in that relationship was your fault, he did not cheat because of you, he did not hurt you because of something you did. This is entirely his own problem. You are lucky to have escaped the relationship and now it's time for you to make yourself happy and realise your worth. You are a beautiful human being and you need to realise that you are one in 7 billion and something. You are unique and deserve as much happiness as the next person. Get yourself some help and make sure you fall in love with the right person, take things slow - at a snails pace if need be, the right man will understand.
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