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writes:How do you meet new guys? Seriously I,m nearly 20 and i,ve NEVER had a Boyfriend. I,m kinda ashamed of it because yeah I,ve snogged some guys but i,ve never gotten any further.I,m often setting up friends with friends and some of them work out others just stay friends. And when they set me up We meet about three times and I never hear from them again. And when I meet men on my own the same thing happens( I swear I,m not trying to be big headed when I say this )I,ve been told off friends and off a few guys that I,m pretty, honest, sweet and I have a good heart. Admittedly I am Overweight but is that what really turns men off? As silly as it sound I feel lonely as all my friends have a boyfriend or girlfriend and I,m left on my own. I know i,m only 19 but I,d like to meet someone. So any advice on how and where I could meet a Nice guy?
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reader, AustralianGold  +, writes (24 August 2011):
not ever having a boyfriend isn't necessarily a bad thing, i'm 17 and I've had a boyfriend for the past year and its more hassle than its worth. your better of waiting till your older and just living your life at this age anyway. As parents always say "you've got your whole life to meet a boy" - so true. it's good that your meeting with guys but you shouldn't feel like you have to have a boyfriend, if it goes wrong and they dont speak to you again, there not worth it. They should like you for who you are and if they don't there not worth it. All i can say is be yourself. Be confident. Confidence is beauty. hope i helped!!
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reader, starguy  +, writes (24 August 2011):
The most flattering thing ever to a guy, is for a girl to hit on him. Do it. You will have all the boyfriends you could ever want. No girls ever do it. It doesn't matter if you are overweight, there are plenty of guys that love big curvy girls. If you make them feel like they are handsome and a dreamguy, their ego will be stoked and they will want to validate your high assessment of their sexiness quotient.Guys are all over the internet. Get into things guys like, like video games, computers, cars, sports, things you normally may not have much interest in. You probably hang around with your best girlfriends, and traveling in a wolf pack like that is intimidating to most guys. Hunt alone, and hunt for a shy guy. One that would never dare come up to you and ask you. And be funny when you do it, have fun with it. Make it seem like it was their idea. Say something like "I saw you over here making glances at me" even when they've never even noticed you in a bookstore. Or say something like... those are pretty strong arms... I bet you work out... to a guy who is a skinny scrawny little nerd. By approaching guys, you will have an advantage none of your girlfriends will ever, ever have, until maybe they are 40 and nobody cares to chase them anymore... and I'll tell you the secret.Only horn dog jerks chase after women. Women who pick from the males that pursue them, will spend the rest of their life only seeing and picking from... jerks. Its true. A cute, nice, cool, decent, polite guy, will never hit on you blatantly like that... its rude and scary and disgraceful. A horndog retard, however, doesn't have that circuit in his brain, to stop him from making a fool of himself, because he has no awareness of how incredibly stupid his lame comeon appears.Now you, if you hit on guys instead, you are suddenly empowered. You are picking the guys you can date, from the nice guys that never make a movie, because they are cool, quiet, smart, civilized. If a guy out of the blue comes onto you, brush him aside, you don't want him. You want to be in control, you want to pick out who you are going to date. Your girlfriends have an ocean of hurt ahead of them, of dating a never ending string of jerks and they don't know why... are the only guys out there jerks... while you... see the jerks coming, like someone hawking cheap jewelry from an overcoat on a street corner, and you push them aside. You look around and find the high class jewelry stores with great reputations that don't come to you, but wait for discerning customers to come to them.
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