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writes:I have been dating my boyfried for 4 years and we live together. We have talked about getting married but it still has gone no where. I am 27 and he is 34 I feel like it is time that we move on to the next step in our relationship but now I really don't know if I want to get married to him how do I know???
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reader, ashleygrl1987 +, writes (11 November 2009):
um has he proposed to u? if u lived with him for 4 years then u guys should get married if u love him and if he loves u. i have a boyfriend we r engaged and we dont live together yet but when he does have a house then i will move in with him and wait til that special moment to get married cuz i love him so much he could be a pain in my ass sometimes but i love him so much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008): Hi Ms Anonymous,
The first lady, Ms anonymous was spot on with her answer. You know when it's right to get married, cause it just feels right.. Everything she says is perfect. You just know that it's the right guy, it's the right time, and it's what you need to do. If it's not, then there is no reason to get married at all. Don't get married because it's expected, or you have run out of ideas in your relationship, or your bored. Get married cause your in love, you want to spend your whole life together and you want to announce this to the world.
Annalisa has given you the reasons for religious people to get married. It seems that they get married because it's what God wants. Luckily, I am not religious, I am an atheist. Because Atheist do not believe in God, we marry to please ourselves, pleasing other people, pleasing some unknown entity doesn't come into it. Religious people may want to think otherwise, because it pleases them to put non-religious people down and think them immoral, but we do not marry for taxes or for pretty dresses or any of the other stupid reasons that Annalisa explains. We marry to bring ourselves in closer union with another human being, not to please some invisible alien being. As far as I've been told, many a religious person has to get married just to have sex, and love, commitment and all those other things don't come into at all.
Marry a man who you love, who you will die for, who makes you laugh and sing. Leave tax planing, people pleasing, and dresses, for those people who talk about them and seem to be confused on what the meaning of marriage actually is.. YOU MARRY BECAUSE YOU LOVE SOMEONE, BECAUSE IT FEELS RIGHT, BECAUSE YOU JUST HAVE TO.. no other reason at all, you marry because it pleases you and your partner to do so. If you don't feel like this, then leave everything alone and continue as you are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008): You just know. I mean, people say it, and it sounds like a cliche, until it happens to you. And then you know what they were talking about. Because ... you just ... know.
You just know that you want to spend the rest of your life with this person - that you're not going to get bored or them, and that whatever comes along, you want to figure out how to work through it with them by your side. And all the little things that used to seem like a huge deal -- like the cut of the ring, and the color of the flowers, and where he proposes, etc. -- seem like they're just details, just pieces of the start of a whole life together. And sure, you still prefer platinum to yellow gold, or vice versa, b/c one matches your skin tone and the other doesn't, but if he showed up with the wrong color ring, your first thought would be, "HOLY CRAP, I'M MARRYING THIS GUY!!!"
You just know.
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