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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend is leaving for the air force in November and we have every intention of staying together, but I know it will be hard. We're already doing a long distance relationship and it's going very, very well, but that's about five hours apart versus the sixteen we will soon. We see each other two or three times a month for at least three days apiece, and while it's hard and we miss each other while apart, we're committed to one another. That's not a problem at all.Anyone out there in the same situation? We are planning on getting married, but that is a ways away and until that time we have to deal with what time we have together. What do you do to keep the relationship going strong even though you can't see each other as often as you like? It's going to be hard, and I'm already dreading it and can't begin to imagine how much I'll miss him. Any suggestions would be very, very welcome. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2011): Find ways to video chat, like through Skype for Facetime, if possible. Skype is free, and as long as both internet connections are decent, you'll be able to talk face-to-face.
When possible have 'dates' over Skype, even if it is just eating a meal/snack or playing a game like Yahtzee (Each of you has your own set of dice).
Write letters. Handwriting a letter is more romantic than sending an email, but you could also send emails a few times a week to catch up.
Don't be angry when you talk or let the emotions of your day ruin the conversation. It's important to stay upbeat and positive so that your conversations are fun and no one dreads them, particularly in such a trying time as being deployed.
Two friends of mine are in your same situation. They were married only three months before he was sent off in the military. They don't get to talk to each other very often, but when they do, they make it count.
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