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writes: How do you get over an abortion when the reason for it was a medical complication and you actually really wanted the baby??
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reader, bonym  +, writes (9 June 2006):
 My dear I sympathise with you so much because there are some women who have no regard for their unborn baby and an abortion is simply the solution to an unwanted child. My dear, I cant say I know how you feel, I havent been there, but you must not blame yourself. You did what was advised to do, God knows your heart and please my dear, I know its a cliche but time is a healer. When the time is right I believe you will be blessed with a beautiful baby. Dont bottle things up either, talk to people, seek others who may be going through the same situation, go to a self help group where there may be other women like yourself who need support from each other. Take good care of yourself. xXx
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reader, David Lewis +, writes (9 June 2006):
 I am so sorry you were faced with this situation.
You must just realise that you did what you had to do because of love for the unborm baby.
There must have been a good reason for it otherwise baby and mum could have been at serious risk.
You are not to blame at all.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (9 June 2006):
 Well, you don't really give much information about what the medical complication was but I'm assuming that is was something that was going to harm either you are the baby if the pregnancy went ahead?
I have no idea what you must be going through, as I have never experienced this but one of my friends has. I think you need to think positive about the situation. We never get over these things completely, they're always there but we just have to manage and not give up.
If harm would have been done to you or your baby would have suffered had it been born, you definitely made the right decision. No matter how much you want something, you can't risk your life and if the baby would have been harmed, think of the pain and suffering you've saved that little thing from.
I know abortion must be a horrible thing to have to go through for anyone, but when my mate had one, it helped her to think of the thing inside her as a ball of cells, and that's all. I know it sounds cold but, at the end of the day, at the time you can have an abortion, provided you have it quite early on, that's all it really is.
Hope this has helped and you keep your head up, you did nothing wrong. You made a mature decision and you should be proud of yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2006): Seek and find the best counseling you possibly can; the anguish of abortion isn't something you should have to handle yourself.
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