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writes:How do you get over cheating?????Is emotional or physical worse from a woman's point of view?Is a man's point of view different? Thank you x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2010): (Edited by Mod)What type of cheating is worst? That dependsStudy: Guys bothered more by sexual infidelity, women by emotional affairshttp://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/35146875/ns/health-behavior/
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2010): Whether long term or one night of sex,cheating is cheating. The person who cheats made that choice. Blaming thier partner for the hurt they have caused them is unforgiveable. It is always said poor communication,lack of attention etc is to blame. Bullshit. The one who cheats,lies and betrays is to blame.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (5 February 2010):
 How do you get over it?
1. Well you forgive yourself first.
(even if you didn't cheat) I say this because most women who have been cheated on, felt they were to blame one way or another.
2. Once you have realized that YOU didn't do this, HE did. That it was HIS actions, HIS choice and nothing you could have done would have changed that, it is easier to let go.
3. Forgive him. No need to ever forget it, but forgive it. Then let it go. This is what takes the longest (if you ask me) but once you get to the point where you know you can forgive him, the rest come easier. It doesn't mean you have to stay with the cheater, Hell no! If you want to let him go, by all means. When I say forgive him, I don't mean that you have to tell him that you forgive him. ( specially if you aren't together any more) But to forgive and let go is just a huge load of your shoulder. It is for YOUR sake more then his anyhow.
4. Start meeting new people. Learn to take it slow. Don't make assumptions that the next guy you met will cheat because the ex did. That is illogical. However, be very open about your values, morals and your point of views when it comes to relationships before getting to deeply involved, and feel confident that his values, morals match yours.
5. Find things in life that makes you happy. A hobby, if you like.
Emotional v. physical.
I don't think it matters, cheating is cheating. though I think physical cheating is an added layer of betrayal. Either of them would make me say enough is enough.
Is a man's point of view different? That depends I think on the man. From what I know quite a few men think that if they aren't having SEX with someone else, they aren't cheating... never mind that they get emotional involved with her. But, I think that is more the point of view of a man who had an emotional affair, then a man who is faithful.
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