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writes:How do you forget someone you feel like you owe everything to? My ex-boyfriend had been there for me through my best friends death and some rough times with my family. I ended our 2 year relationship when he started abusing cocaine and heroin after his brothers death which incidently was due to OD. Even though the relationship was over I couldn't abandon him completly and I ended up being the one who took care of him for nearly two years while he made nearly no effort to kick the addiction or get help of any kind and nothing I said mattered but I still felt extreamly guilty at even the thought of leaving him with no one (family and friends disowned him due to addictions). After a while he did get help and I agreed to try the relationship once again and it worked on and off for but in the end I found out he had started using again. I thought back on how much it killed me to see someone I loved so much go from healthy and happy to living dead while having to watch the entire process everyday, saying goodbye and wondering if it'd be the last time. I couldn't bring myself to go through that pain all over again, I loved him very much but I just couldn't do it. After a few months he caught me on my way home and proposed and spilled his entire heart out to me.....and I broke his heart by saying I couldn't and explaing why. It hurt so much to see that I brought him to tears and hurt him like that. If I did the right thing why do I feel so lousy about it? Was I wrong? Should I have tried harder? We're both very much in love and I'm breaking both our hearts.
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reader, masquerade711 +, writes (29 January 2009):
 As in love as you are, you can't live with a situation like that between you. It's always hard to see someone you love go through something like this. Only you can know how you feel right now. It's not for any of us to tell you to get back together with him or stay seperated. You just need to know if he doesn't kick this habit and you go back to him, you will most likely live with this your whole life. If he truly loves you, he shouldn't be asking you to do that. He should be kicking his habit and THEN asking to spend his life with you.
Send up a prayer, sweetie. It will work out. I know that might seem hard to believe but it will. I'll be praying for him, that he stays clean, and for you, that you make the right decision for YOU! Because YOU are beautiful and YOU deserve the best! :)
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