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writes:Last August my boyfriend of 5 years just uppin left me .. 3 days later I got a text message saying he was moving out and we were done. Then 3 days after that he was seen with a new girl at work. That ended about a month later. And we started talking again. We were back together at Christmas.I have major trust issues cause of how things happened and how he treats me in general. We got in a huge fight yesterday. And all day today I have been ignored again. It feels like the August breakup not hearing from him. I'm ready to say I'm done. But how do you do that when the person is ignoring you. Id prefer not to do it in a text but I feel like that might be my only option.
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (13 April 2012):
you did the right thing, if he bothers you again try your best to ignore him.... its how I got rid of one very bothersome ex
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2012): Wow good on you! Shows him he cannot treat people like that, good luck in your future x
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 April 2012):
 Yay OP! congrats to you!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (10 April 2012):
 There you go, you set yourself FREE.
His loss, honey
Move on!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone for the input. I wrote that Sunday evening and still never heard from him. Monday I figured I'd see him before work.. He never showed.. So at 630 in the morning I just sent him a text and said.. I wanted to do this in person but since u won't let me. I'm done I can't do it anymore.
I still haven't heard back from him at all. Not even an ok.
I'll admit I feel a weight has been lifted.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (9 April 2012):
So_Very_Confused is right.
Pack his stuff put it outside your door, send him a text and tell him where he can pick it up. Then you block his number ( sometimes you have to pay to block but some phones have a free app for it as well so google your phone and find out).
After that you take a deep breath, let it out and be DONE with him.
I'm guessing he was already seeing his female coworker BEFORE he dumped you.
Don't take him back, don't talk to him, don't text him any more PRETEND he doesn't exist.
You just can't fix stupid, honey. And he is stupid.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 April 2012):
I agree with the post that says just remove all his stuff from your home. whether you let him know you are putting it out for trash is up to you or not but that could be your goodbye text.... "all your stuff is on the curb for the trashman, have a nice life good-bye"
change your locks
block his phone number
block his email
be DONE with him.
that's your closure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2012): I agree with removing his stuff, blocking him etc... Just give him one message saying its over and he can find his stuff at "insert place you've left it all!". It sounds like back in August he met that girl while he was with you anyway-3 days after a break up to be with someone says it all really. Good on you for being a better person and trying again but he hasn't changed and you deserve a lot better. Be strong and if you ever come close to getting back together just remember what he's like and that it didn't work the last time so why would it in the future?
Get your girlfriends round and take your mind off him! Ignoring someone is done for attention, but usually by 5 year olds not a fully grown man. xx
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (9 April 2012):
 I wouldn't even bother texting him, just get any stuff that might be at his place, and then block his number, block him on facebook, don't answer the door if he comes a knocking, don't answer the phone, if you live with family ask them to give non committal two word answers to any questions, "don't know" "don't know" "don't know" if you see him in the street put on your blandest blankest face and walk on by.
Blank him!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (9 April 2012):
 Yes, it would be better in general ending a r/ship in person, but I think in this case you may dispose of the social niceties, what goes around comes around. He dumped you by text- he gets dumped by text.
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reader, Great or Good  +, writes (9 April 2012):
 Why worry, he used text do the same as well. If ever you don't want to hear his side of the story as he is ignoring you then block him in all ways of contact, what you cannot block is when he come in person, but still you can do what he is doing now, '' ignoring him''. He is a worse. Don't let him continue breaking you heart. Thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2012): Just ignore him back but for good. No need to say anything. Let your behavior do the talking. Assume that he knows you're no longer together and just move on by cutting him out of your life for good
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (9 April 2012):
Don't you just love stonewallers? People that do that are the worst ever and seriously, ignoring someone like they don't exist is such BS. Obviously, I'm bitter about it happening to me before lol.
Anyhow, I know you want to give your boyfriend the courtesy of a face-to-face breakup. But screw it. The dickhead isn't showing you any sort of courtesy or respect, so just end it with him throught text. Seriously, don't get back with him EVER AGAIN either, he will always be this way and it makes you feel like doo-doo.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2012): He did it by text, I don't see any reason why you can't too.
If you want to get stuff off your chest for closure then send him an email too explaining everything and if you really want to have some fun with this block his number, email address and block him facebook account too so he can't reply hehe. That way you get the last word and then he's gone.
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