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writes:So i split from someone months ago, my choice. Wasn't working, very dysfuncional relationship, split, get back together, split get back together, you get the picture. Anyway, been a bit of a struggle since, but managed to keep it on civil terms, and on a friends basis, he has my little brother working for him, and we mix in the same circles. A couple of nights a week anyway. All is fine, i have male friends on aquaintance terms, not even phone number terms, he keeps grilling me about one in particular that does have my number, i tell him the truth, that i dont want to date anyone for some time now. I have children and want to concentrate on them. And i actually like being single! He is bang on with women all over the place, throwing themselves at him. Texting left right n centre. Going round one in particulars house when she cooks him dinner. Whatever floats his boat. Me and my bro have a chuckle about it in front of him. He's what most class as a playa. Hence the split. My brother knows he's not a bit of me, and prays we wont rekindle, which i assure him will never happen. As a friend to my bro i cant fault him. But my ex was banging on tonight that he cant get with anyone else because he still loves me and one day will marry me! Yeh right. I said er no, it wont ever happen mate. Have made it clear since we split there will be no going back. I'm happy as i am. But my ex refuses to believe that one particular guy i txt is only a friend, and tonight accused me of lying, said its weird and that i dont have to lie. I'm not lying and have no reason to. The guy in question is someone i met in my local 2 months ago, and he has been hurt recently and is in no way looking to date anyone, we just get on as txt buddies if you like and never exchange smutty txt, he's never been to my house and even my bro tells my ex he has seen me and this guy communicating in our local and there is deffo no chemistry or romantic chit chat of any sort, he's just such a nice guy, but definately too young for me and certainly not ready for anything more than a txt buddy and a drink once a week, with other friends in our local. As am i!How do you convince someone that you are being honest? I told my ex that he needs to stop judging people on his standards because it makes you paranoid. And that i was glad he didn't get caught drink driving tonight. When he drove his car home drunk.Ive got 2 weeks to keep things civil with him until i have managed to secure a charge order on his house for money he owes me, do you think he is trying to put a spanner in the works in that area?
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reader, chay1988 +, writes (27 January 2009):
The guy is still hopelessly in love with you. The reason he was acting like a playa in the 1st place is because he was looking for you 2 tell him ''no'' and make some sort of commitment to him. He wanted the two of you to become closer. Now that you have split because he thinks its not bothering you and you are txting other guyz and going out having a nice time he thinks that he should do the same, and is trying to cnvince himself that he has moved on to.
If you have a glimer of hope left for this relationship i urge you to pursue it. I think if you have a heart to heart with him and tell him you love him and cant be without him you will find that your relationship will blossom into something new and exciting...special. He loves you tons.
And i think you love him
however old this post is.
Find him and dont let him go.
this is my stoned prospective
peace out
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reader, MissWendlemoot  +, writes (5 August 2008):
 He is just trying to pull your chain. Ignore him. Try to put some distance between you two so you don't have to be around him all the time.
Good luck xo!
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reader, lexilou +, writes (5 August 2008):
 You dont owe him any explanations. He just doesnt want you to move on and be happy. Maybe he is still carrying a torch for you and is a bit jealous. Let him go you are worth more, dont even bother trying to convince him x
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