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*ndy12345
writes:How do you ask a girl for anal sex?Iv been having "normal" sex for a while now and i find that i really want to just try anal sex with a girl. A lot of girls i know hate the thought of it and wud probably run a mile if you asked. But what is the best way to ask a girl without them freaking out? im also scared of getting excrement on the end of my penis.What are the dangers to me and the girl if we was to perform anal sex?thanks
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reader, malteser +, writes (10 April 2009):
 The first time that my boyfriend had anal sex with me he dident ask he just went in and god it hurt like hell. If you want to have anal sex you must ask your girlfriend if she wants to try it. Because if you do what my guy did she will probley never trust you having sex with her again. The key to anal sex is lubrication and gentleness. The colon is so different from the vagina and doesn't produce its own lubrication so use a water based lube. Not a heat, tingling or flavored one. And if your girlfriend agrees start slowly maybe in the spoons position and be gentle. It may sting at first but once your penis is inside her it should be ok. If at anytime your girlfriend dosent like it take it out immediately. If you are worrid about getting excrement on you penis use a condom. Not a ribbed one of course.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): eeee! im your age, im almost 17 and i was in a relationship with a 'well...! not a very nice guy. lets put it that way. he forced me into stuff i didnt want to do, and he actually forced me into anal sex, trust me its the WORST thing i did in my whole life! its the most painful thing EVER and its filthy. so if you find a girl with the gutts to let you then shes rare! trust. its not a pleasent thing to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): Andy, you are 16 to 17 years old!! Where the heck do you young kids learn about this stuff?? Oh yea..right..we have internet porn now, don't we. *sigh* Damn shame, that is. Listen, if some other Aunt wants to advise you, an underage, hormonal male how to ask some poor unsuspecting adolescent female if she wants to 'get boinked up the butt' then he/she can go ahead. Frankly, you have a lot to learn about the human sexual experience. And one thing is, a female's butt is not an orifice nor a sperm depository. It is a poop hole, which can be damaged if anal sex is not carefully practised. Now, there are a TON of sites out there where you can get medical and practical advisement. I suggest you google keywords "anal sex". LIke honestly, you don't need our opinions, do you? But I do have one tidbit of sage advice: Take it or leave it. Get in a nice, long term, mutually loving, decent, quality relationship first. Work hard at that. Love her, respect her and then when the time is appropriate and both of you are older, and a bit more experienced...perhaps then you both can come to a place, in your relationship where you can experiment a bit. But gain some knowlege and gain some maturity and realize that females are not objects, with orifices for your 'thing'.And...something just tells me if you know about 'anal' sex and you want it, now at your age....then you should be savvy enough to figure out how to ask for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): ok babe, why dont you ask her one day if shes ever had anal sex in the past with one of her exes. then hopefully youll be able to judge how she feels aboout it by her reaction. if she like "eww no way" then perhaps its not worth asking for it if shes not into it. it is often painfull for wome so domt put any pressure on her to do it. and yes there are dangers. there are a high risk of infections and she may experiences problems when trying to go to the toilet.
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reader, andy12345 +, writes (8 April 2009):
andy12345 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni was kinda hoping for some serious answers!
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (8 April 2009):
 What you need is a rubber diving suit or nick a NASA space suit, and then get an extra strong condom and a pair of washing up gloves...now that sounds like all the protection you need against faecal contamination from anal action. As for chat up lines, how about 'I want to stick my sausage up your bum, you bring the orifice and I'll bring the KY jelly and haemorrhoid cream for afters?'...which will be closely followed by a hole in the wall where the girl exits the building at the nearest opportunity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2009): Well, if you shove your 'thing' up a hole that is meant for taking dumps, you have to expect some surprises!! So if you have a fear of excrement, then maybe you aren't ready for this type of sexual esperiemntation. As for asking a girl if you can do that...I have no idea how you can warm a girl up to 'that' idea.
Perhaps some of the more sexually bolder and more 'with it' younger Aunties/Uncles here on the site, can better answer your question.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (8 April 2009):
 How about "Hey Sweetheart, I'm thinking about shoving my rod up somebody's butt, you interested?" It might scare away most girls but you might also find a few real troopers as well. Let's just hope they never use their rectums for anything because you could possibly get some poo on your member.
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