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writes:ok i have this mate (well best mate) who i have known all my life she is an indain (this is a imporant).i was home alone as my foks where on holiday and it was about 11:00pm when this knoock came at the door. i opend it to find her standing there crying saying she had a fall out with her mam and dad so i let her in made her a coffee and asked her what had happend. she says that her dad wanted her to have an arranged marrige to some one she had never met (well long story short) we where waching dvds so take her mind off it soon i had her smiling and lauthing again and she started to hold my hand and say what a special person i was i thanked her and told her i thought she was special too. then out of the blue she kissed me (iv alway sort of liked her) i kissed her back and we where kissing for what seemed like ages when we broke apart we just wached the end of the dvd and when to sleep on the sofe.the next day she said that she wanted to go out with me and i said yes we have only told her mom her mom is happy about her going out with me as shes always liked me. her dad dont know yet so my question is how do we tell her dad about this and what do we do about the arranged marriage?thanks for reading all this
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi thanks for geting back to me sorry it took so long for me to reply i wanted to awit a while b4 posting in case things changed well we told her dad, at fist he was angry a stoped speeking to her but after a while (3 mount)he came around when he realised that her happynes is more importan then what he called his family pride but in reality he wsn the only member of the family who had any real problem with it. any way as i say he is now is back in her life an has even agreed to give her away at are wedding that right we are geting married :D an its going to be a tradishinle indian wedding an i have desided to convert to her faith i am now the luckyest an happyest man to walk this earth as i am with the one person who i love more then life its self :D thanks aghin for your advise it helped p.s sorry about the state of my spelling
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2010): This is why arranged marriages were eliminated in Western societies... they are wrong.
I suggest being an adult and standing up to your family. If you cannot tell friends and family when you think they are wrong, then you are not an adult.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (16 July 2010):
 If you want her you'll have to go and fight for her. Tell her Dad your feelings etc etc.
How old is this girl, anyway?
Keep in mind that, from what little I know about Indian families, if she throws in her lot with you in defiance of her father, it is quite possible that she will be cut off from her family and socially ostracized by her community for an extended period of time, so unless you are sure you want her and will care for her as she deserves to be cared for, don't force her into making that decision.
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reader, spaz_69_9 +, writes (16 July 2010):
It sounds like ya'll could really be in love, so when you go to her dad just let him know your true feelings for each other. If he really loves his daughter he will come to the realization that his daughters feelings mean more than some arranged marriage, and as long as she is happy, then he should be too. and if he doesnt consider his daughters feelings then he could end up losing her for good... hope this helps, good luck!
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