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writes:I had my neice and my son over. My neice is 10 years old and my son is 11 years old and they are second cousins.After I made dinner, I went to my sons room to get them for dinner and when I open the door, they were both laying on the bed naked and having sex (my son's penis was in her Vagina). We talked to them and come to find out, it was not their first time.How do we (me and my husband) tell her parents what happen? Is this normal between children? What other concerns should we have?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2009): It's completely normal for kids to experiment with each other at that age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2009): tell them nowxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2009): this will be one of the most uncomfortable talks you will ever have so be prepared for the unexpected. but you MUST talk to the parents ASAP. there should be no blame thrown around but you all should cdecide how you are going to address this. plse send us an update after you talk to her parents. what does your son say and for how long have they been having sex. are they having sex only with each other or others as well. does the girl get her period.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2009): it happens more often people just dont talk about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2009): I really feel that you should tell the parents. You need to talk to your son and ask him why did he do it. Where did he see people having sex? Ask him if he has done it with anyone else? It is a possibility that someone older approached one of them like "hey you wanna play a game with me its a secret game don't tell your mom" and one of the children could have decided to play this "game" with their cousin. (this happened to me as a child) I also feel that you should tell your niece's parents just in case she has allowed older boys or other boys to have intercourse with her.I think the best way to tell the parents would be to sit them down and tell them as soon as possible and make sure they don't show anger toward your son or their daugther.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (7 November 2009):
 No WAY!! Is this for real?
Yes, you should tell the parents.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2009): The biggest concern is to find out if it was consensual. Kid's have been 'playing doctor' forever. Of course it's to be discouraged -- they're getting old enough that it's probably beyond innocent exploration. If one was pressuring the other, though, it's a very serious issue. If not, then it's a question of explaining to them how and why it's inappropriate and making sure it doesn't happen any more. As for what you say to her parents, give it to them straight. All of you parents need to be singing from the same song sheet on this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2009): i noe its uncomfortable to talk with ur child nd with ur niece but u need to tell her parents nd let them handle her nd u handle ur child u need to explain to ur son tat wat having sex can lead to ect. tell him its wrong ect. nd ask questions nd be careful with the lies well i hope i helped nd good luck
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