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*eace love nsn
writes:my friend has a not friend who does really badthings and she doesn't like it. we always tell him he should stop doing these things but he doesn't listen! we always tell her she should talk to him about it but she doesn't knoe how to bring it up or how to discuss it. by the way me and my friends aren't the type of people who sit down and talk to our friends like we are talking to a child ( sorry if I affend anybody ) so any suggestions? Reply to this Question
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reader, peace love nsn +, writes (16 August 2010):
peace love nsn is verified as being by the original poster of the questionKay thanks :)
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reader, James_Michael  +, writes (15 August 2010):
 Sadly, marijuana smoking is common in people your age. It's wrong and illegal. But you cannot stop this man from smoking weed, you can try introducing him to help classes, or ask him if smoking marijuana is really worth a prison sentence? There isn't much you can do as a friend, just try your best to make him see good things.
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reader, peace love nsn +, writes (14 August 2010):
peace love nsn is verified as being by the original poster of the questionumm.. well he smokes weed but he dusnt do it cus he needs help or is depressed or anything! he only does It for popularity and for the fun of it :/ help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2010): the others have missed a huge point. You can't "tell"other people how to behave... You're trying to FORCE people to change how they act. It's not going to happen, but you'll be miserable. You need to realize that people do things for a variety of reasons. Drunks drink because they are trying to escape feelings, druggies same thing... people shoplift for the "rush" (that too is an activity that changes how someone feels, and in essence is similar to getting drunk or stoned).
Tell them (once) how their actions make you feel, and what the consequences of them continuing to behave that way are. If they continue make the consequence happen. The consequence is usually "I'll not be able to be around you any longer, and I'll miss you"... just DO NOT violate the consequence.
The loss of important relationships is one of the things that will eventually cause people like this to change their ways. The failure of people in your situation to make the consequence come true PROLONGS their behavior. Do your freinds a favor and do NOT prolong their actions.
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reader, James_Michael +, writes (8 August 2010):
I agree we need to know what these bad things are before we can give any advice to you. Because this is too open to answer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2010): You have to tell us what these bad things are, we can't really advise you on something that is so general. Because the advice has to be specific to what these bad things are, are they illegal, are they physical, sexual, drugs or what?
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