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writes:So me and my boyfriend have been together for four wonderful drama free months - at least until now. before I got with him I had a lot of guy friends and was a big flirt. but since then I've stopped flirting with them and made it known that I wanna juss be friends. there was one guy who is my buddy - I have no romantic feelings for him at all - well I gave him my number. and in my mind it was harmless - I know that I don't feel for him like that so I didn't think it was a big deal. but someone told everyone that I was trying to talk to him - like trying to be his girlfriend and that makes me mad. I explained to my boyfriend that there's nothing going on and I was sorry because I didn't think it through. but he says he trusts me and beleives me. but latley as the rumor has been spreading around skool there's a lot of people coming up to us and asking us about it. it makes me so upset and I'm scared that he's gonna start beleiving them. I trust him but i know that its gonna start getting to him eventually. I just need advice from anyone who's been in this situation. I really love my boyfriend and I think this is a test to see how strong our relationship is - and I pray we pass. but how do we overcome this and strengthen our relationship. we plan on being together for a long time and we really wanna make this work. thank you everyone =]
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reader, emeraldclovers  +, writes (22 January 2009):
I want to say right now that a problem for some part is only as big as you make it, and if you constantly stress over it you will give the impression to him and others that there IS something going on when in reality there isn't.
Let it go if there's nothing really going on, and sooner or later people will leave it alone. If you act stressed, the others will see that they're achieving what they want, and they'll keep doing it. As long as your boyfriend is not listening to the rumors, don't worry about it.
Good luck!!
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reader, Chrono +, writes (21 January 2009):
Hey there,
If your boyfriend believes that you are innocent then stop worrying about it. Spend alot of time with him and love him as always. Try maybe talking to this guy and see how the rumour started. It may have been a misinterpretation on his end. Don't be short with him, let him know how you feel and apologise. unfortunatly you cant stop people from talking and it might take a while to calm down, but it will eventually. Give it a month at max i say. Tell your boyfriend how you feel about it all. Tell him your scared it would drive him away, he will tell you himself his worries and that he trusts you. If you love him as much then his word should be all you need. nothing can heal this situation better than the proper communication it lacked in its start up. You will be fine and work past it.
Let me know how you are doing!
- Lauren
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reader, HoneyDip +, writes (21 January 2009):
 well the thing is that you cannot stop what may or may not happen all you can do is be yourself and if it is that strong you just hang in there. If its meant to be then it will. I've been in a situation similiar you know I was the same way flirtatious and now i tell my guy everything. thats all that i can do for the time being. Everyone can talk all they want but its what you got to work with.
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