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writes: I have been in a relationship for almost four years now. We got together when I was 16 and she was 15. We are now 18 and 19, and there is really no excitement or conversation. It's so sad because we are at the age to have fun, and we are like a sad old boring couple. We don't talk, we can be in the car together for half an hour and not say a word. Our sex life is boring. Any advice to spice things back up would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2007):
i would sugeest writing down what you love/like about eachother and read them to each other
tell eachother how you felt when you first seen eachother
then try to suggest some things that you both can do to get excitement back into your relationship
Try going to adult store together
or surprise her with gifts plan a trip
remember communication is KEY
talk to her about how you feel
GOOD luCK!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2006): I'm in the same situation, we've only been going out a year and nearly four months and he's 17 i'm 16. But i don't feel like we do enough together and away from each other, we either stay in all day (it's fun, we have plenty of conversation)but could do with a change of scenary and we are going out with mates more i'd like to find a way in between but the main thing is we end up arguing and over the stupidest things. I think it's the small things that make bigger things better. If i'm feeling a bit down and he says he loves or just gives me a hug it brightens up my day and lets me know he does still care and he's not getting bored of me.
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (9 March 2006):
 I think there is more to simply spicing this relationship up - I mean - the fact you have nothing to say to each other indicates a lack of connection, things in common etc.
I really think that you need to look at a more long term solution of compatibility than a quick fix. I think this realtionship sounds like it is on shakey ground and a quick fix will go nowhere.
I think it is time for you and your partner to seriously sit down and discuss your futures, what you want, what you hope for, what is great about it each other and see if it is really compatible. If not, maybe it is time to move on.
Good luck
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reader, Agony AUnt Hannah +, writes (8 March 2006):
 Get some post it notes and leave them all around the house or in things she uses regulary will sweet notes in like 'I miss you already' or 'you always look beautiful'. They will feel special and like you still love them. As for conversation why dont you try and make them laugh or something by buying some face paints and messing around with them in the bedroom and in long journys. Make time to spend time with each other and buy them some special chocolates or flowers again with a note. But dont give them to the person personally. Instead buy some fake petals and in the morning make a trail of them to where the chocolates and flowers are hiding. Make sure you are out of the house to work or something when they find them though. In the bed room buy some sexy underwear, or try some role playing. In the morning take a picture of ureself naked and put it in a red envelope and leave it near there bed when they wake up. If all else fails then maybe you should reconsider the fact that you two maybe arent meant to be
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (8 March 2006):
 Why are you bothering to try and spice it up, it looks well dead to me, if I was you I would be looking to break up not spice up.
Take a seriouse look at the relationship, what are you getting from it and why are you together, do you have any long term plans, are you just in this relationship because it is familiar and safe and a habit, and neither of you have had the courage to break it off.
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