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writes: hi, I was in a relationship for 4 months and recently my g/f broke up with me as she said at first there was spark and now theres no spark.. whats the best way to work it out and relight the spark?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2006): Omo, this girl isn't for you, hun. She doesn't have the the heartfelt allegiance to you, to be in a responisble, committed relationship, right now. And you know..that's okay. Because if you both are young, you both should dating others. She did you a favor dear..she was honest and told you what she felt. Her 'rejection' will open up newer and more exciting opportunities for you. When you are ready, you will take that path. So, face this setback, realize this is a life lesson and we've all been there and done that. Good luck, dear and be strong.
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reader, Smiler +, writes (12 June 2006):
 Hey babe...
firstly sorry you two broke up so soon thats a shame :o(, but hey back to your question its hard to put that spark back into a relationship if only one of you is doing all the work (you) a relationship is a joint commitment where it takes two of you to pull together and sort it out and make it work rather than you doing all the running on your own, sadly if she has called things off beteewn you that indicates that she isn't willing to put the effort into tryin to repair this and you would be fighting a loosing battle babe :o(.... however in my opinion you sound like a really sweet guy who just needs to find that special someone who is as committed as you are in being together and having a relationship... don't waste your time and energy on this girl go out find your self miss right rather than miss right now who if things don't work walks out after 4 months without even tryin... you deserve the best in life if the time is'nt right with her then move on 2nd best is never enough babe....
I hope my advice was able to help you out with your situation sweetie and good luck with this... if you ever need a friend or a chat or just more advice don't hesitate to email me sweetie, I would love to hear from you again and know how you got on... Remember i'm always here for you anytime ok
You Take Care Sweetie X
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reader, omo +, writes (12 June 2006):
omo is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys sooo much for your help. it's really given me a clear understanding about things now. she is currently studying at university like me and i bought her a small token to wish her the best for the exams. she looked unsure when she broke up with me but i've always been there for her in bad and good times and i hope things will workout to be like before. if you guys have more input please provide them your help is greatly appreciated
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2006): omo step one of finding the best way to work it out would be to see if your girlfriend is interested in making another go at it. If she isn't, there isn't much you can do to relight the spark.
If though you can make her see the error of her way, and have another go at things, then the two of you could discuss what went wrong and then see if you can both accomodate each others needs better.
Remember a good sign of a relationship is when there is relatively equal input from both partners. When people share this kind of equal respect and determination, often they can get through any thing. Relationships always seem to go wrong when the two people no longer want to work towards the same goal.
Good luck with your girlfriend :)
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reader, hannieseds  +, writes (12 June 2006):
 Hey there omo...
I'm sorry your relationship ended after such a short time. Sounds to me like your girlfriend expected every single day of your relationship to be just like the first and didn't give it a chance to grow into something more beautiful. That either shows immaturity or fear of committment perhaps?
There are many ways to relight the spark, that is if you are BOTH willing to give it a go 100%. Is this just you that wants to work it out? Or has she said that she wants to give it another go?
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