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*essica_josh
writes:I am 24 yearsold and my boyfriend Josh is 25, we startes dating10 months ago when I was 4 months pregnant with my daughter. Josh knew that I was pregnant when we started dating and was fine with it. HE was very supporting and even was with me in the delivery room when my daughter was born. He looks at her like his own and we call him daddy. We went to his parents house for a visit last week. While we were there Josh was playing with our daughter and when was kissing her and saying "daddy loves you" over and over again, when his sister came in the room and said "You're not her father". I was floored I had no idea what to say. His family has been very excepting of me and my daughter, his parents treat her no differently their other grandchildren. I understand that alot of his family may know that he isnt her actually DNA father but he is the only father she knows. Apparently after I went to bed that night his sister (who is 27 yrs old) told him that it is horrible that we would lie to her (our daughter). How do we handle this, and how can I explain to her that I dont want her making comments like that in front of her, I know right now she is to young to understand what is being said but it will be confusing for her when she gets older.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (10 October 2009):
You need to go through your boyfriend first. Talk to him about how you feel. This is a case of the family not accepting your daughter because they're not related. And I perhaps detect some jealousy as well. But before confronting his sister, talk to your boyfriend. She might listen to him more than you. All the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2009): I think you need to sit down with the sister or the entire family and explain to them how important it is to you and to your daughter that comments like this do not continue.
Your daughter will always consider her father to be the person who has cared for her her entire life.
Is it possible that his sister is worried that if things don't work out with you and Josh he won't only be losing you but also he will be losing the little girl he considers his daughter.
I feel that best thing to do in this situation would be to explain your situation clearly to the family.
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