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writes:Due to my sexual past that started with a man who was more than 20 years my senior, I find myself now - 6 years later - still somehow attracted to men that much older. And I want to get rid of this "habit".I have a super good looking nice man my age at work, tall, tanned, green eyes. And I cannot imagine myself having sex with him. I am aware that most men 30-25 years of age know their way in a woman's panties, so why do I still feel that I would rather let a man in his 50's give it to me rough instead of the sexy work colleague? I need adviceAs an example of grossness: I had a patient - 72 years old - who told me, crossing the line, and without me encouraging his behaviour - that if he were 20 years younger he would not just be standing there talking to me about his medical problems. I brought conversation back on track BUT I am starting to worry I am a magnet for all the SO WRONG men.Will I be able to enjoy the company/relationship of a man my age? Or am I on the wrong track forever?
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (23 August 2011):
 don't worry about being a magnet for old men - they often try it on and i think its coz they have the confidence that younger men lack and that they know their chat up lines can be received by you as a cheeky joke. if you want to get with younger men then that's what you will do. if you prefer older ones then what harm is there in that? stop being so hard on yourself, there is nothing wrong with you.
you heard this before? 'better to be an old man's darling than a young man's slave'
you do what YOU want to do and as long as that isn't something that hurts anyone else just enjoy your life
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reader, PerhapsNot  +, writes (23 August 2011):
 You have not specified, but have you been with with men your age/around your age after the break-up? How about before him, or was he your first serious relationship? If you haven't been in love and had sex since then, you have no reason to be worried. To me, it seems like you're projecting your sexual history onto older men in a nostalgic way. You're just looking for parallels, for something familiar brought on by positive memories. It happens to a lot of people. My first boyfriend was Russian and consequently I have always looked at Russian men in a more favorable light. Your past experiences are just clouding your objective mind. Think about it this way... When you're in your 40's and still working, your partner would be well into retirement. He would be slowing down in life, embarking on a new chapter in life; one you would not be able to share or truly understand. That is to say, he is still alive even! Think about the decaying of the body and all the illnesses that come into play. And if you had children, would you want that child to be around a sickly parent, or a parent that would probably not even get to see its college graduation?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2011): Dont worry this phase will when you meet a guy your age that you actually fancy ,trust me i've been there and im much younger than but i've been in these situations alot and actually had se with alot of older men ,it seems like whenever a young guy hits on you ,you get disgusted but when an older man does you want ,i've been there and i can say that its something that has to do with you past .search in ur past and u will find the answer and trust me it will pas as soon as you meet a nice guy in ur age ..
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