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anonymous
writes:I've had lots of boyfriends but i'm always to scared to do anything with them, i'm in a relationship now and i want to do more with him but i'm scared what he will think, i don't have the confidence to do anything else than kissing and none of my friends seem to understand please help me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2007): There is nothing wrong with having the maturity and foresight not to go any further than kissing with a boy. You are too young to be having sex with any one. What would you do if you got pregnant before you were ready to support it and settle down to motherhood, and most likely end up raising the child on your own. Your stupid friends want to lead you down the wrong path.
You are at a much greater risk of getting HPV and cervical cancer if you have sex to young (before the age of about 21) and condoms don't protect you. There is new vaccine for HPV, but the jury is out on how effective it is in preventing cervical cancer.
Don't pressure yourself to be like everyone else. Be smarter than everyone else, listen to people who are older and wiser than your friends who are mostly concerned with being cool and having a false sense of maturity and adulthood by becoming sexually active too soon. You have your whole life ahead of you, don't screw it up, kid!
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reader, Farris +, writes (13 May 2007):
 If you're scared then you shouldn't do anything else. This relationship obviously isn't at the stage to go any further. There is no rush.
The time will come when you both feel ready, and things will come naturally, so don't worry about it.
The other option is to talk to him about this. About sex or anything else connected you have in mind. If you have been together for a long time, it's probably worth talking also about contraception and what you'd do if you got pregnant. Obviously if this is a new relationship, you don't want to scare him off!
Best wishes & good luck.
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