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36-40,
*ockeydude1210
writes:Me and my long distance girlfriend recently went on a break. I am 20 and she is almost 19. She has been very confused for many different reasons. first off...it seems to make her way upset to see other couples doing the things we do the rare times we can meet up. Also the past month I have been dealing with jealousy issues. I had 2 bad relationships where my ego was destroyed. So I feel a little insecure about myself and in turn made me a jealous person. But from day one I noticed it and started working on self therapy (writing thoughts and such, buying books, and trying to talk with her). then i did therapy cause i dont wanna be this way. But she doesnt understand why I would've been jealous in the first place. I tried to explain its not her but my past and Ive been trying to work on the issue seriously. She still has no idea what she wants to do but I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do right now. She is also lost about school and pressured to succeed and where to go to school and all (took a year off). Any suggestions as to what I am supposed to do right now?
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (29 November 2007):
Let me share something with you.As a man you have the responsibility of making your woman feel secure.Which means that you will need to do everything in your powers to chase her fears away.You need to give her a reason feel confident and happy.Show her how much you love her and what she means to you.All this is a sign that she needs your support but what specific support is your homework.On the other hand,you need to be strong for both of you as you may slip back into the jealousy thing.Talk alot to her.The more she talks about her problems the better she'll feel.Possibly she just aint ready for such committment and wants out.See what you can do before giiving up.
Best of luck.
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reader, peaches83  +, writes (29 November 2007):
 It sounds as if you are trying to take on your problems and hers.
Firstly you both need to sit down and have a serious heart to heart because with out each knowing what the other desires you cannot make it work.
Supporting each other is a big thing in a relationship.
While you are ina jealous state things will not work it is something that will always come in the way. But congrads on trying to help it not many people would. When dealing with jealousy you need to pin point the things that make you feel jealous and aim to solve those fist.
I hope this helped
Peaches
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