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writes:Here is the one thing that keeps me up at night! I would love a man's opion on this.Why would a man who says he loves you and cares for you be so up and down? Did he even really love me? We broke our vows with each other he said he had never done that before. Why can't I stop loving him? How do I walk away for good? Do I tell the wife and ruin both of our marriages? He likes to protray himself as a ladies man with secrets. He says things like going that far with me has helped me not take it farther with other women since me.. I know he still has pictures of me but told me he got rid of them all. Why would a guy randomly just tell you that he got rid of all of your pics and then only later to find out he at least still had one left? I can't stand to think that I will never talk to him again or his family!I want to know does he still have feelings for me? I love him I know I do.. I just can't stop thinking about him.. Does he think of me like that as well? I can't ask him so what the crap and I supposed to do.. Still crazy in love.. help me please. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2010): I unfortunatly have found myself in a similar situation.I was seeing a married woman who professed to be in a bad marriage and was "leaving" her husband, I unlike you was single. I loved her like I had never loved anyone and she loved me.She was going to leave him and we were going to be together.WRONG! after 3 years of excuses, her giving me the "I cant do this" phone call about 5 times and then coming back a month later and 3 years of my life wasted persuing her I finally relized I was an idiot,she had no intentions of leaving him! That was 7 years ago and I still think about her ocasionally, yes she's still married and cheating!You need to just STOP!Dont call, dont text, dont meet for coffee,Nothing! no contact at all.Relize HE IS NOT LEAVING HER AND NEVER WILL! he is simply cheating and sounds like he does it a lot, yes I know, your the woman who would change all that because he loves you sooo much he wont leave his wife.If you had sex with him he thinks of that,not you.Quote:"He says things like going that far with me has helped me not take it farther with other women since me"As a man this line strikes me as utter BULLSHIT he's giving you a line to keep his options open with you when he's finished with the one he's with now.Oh ok, so after you he relized the error of his ways and now goes to church every Sunday and yet still keeps a picture of the woman he cheated with.I think the real questions you should be asking is why am I not this obssesed with my husband?Why did I not divorce that poor guy at home if I wanted to start something with someone else?You are in pain and unfortunaly you will be for some time but, it will fade just as the love for your husband has.Learn from your mistake and be a better person as I have tried to do and you will find yourself happier.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2010): Please read all our responses to you in your last post. You are married yet you care nothing of destroying your marriage and this other womans marriage. I think you are a sadist and you cruelly want to destroy this womans life. Your lover made a choice to be with his wife. Please accept it . I think you are very jealous of his wife therfore you want to destroy her. You may not think much about yiur hb and your marriage but please have the decency to leave this man and his wife and family alone. Stop going over to their house and invading their home. You are the unwanted 3rd party and you are destroying what he has with his wife. You are obsessing over this married man who chose his wife over you. Get a grip and just stop it.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (4 August 2010):
 How long were you married?
Also when you say "We broke our vows with each other" does that mean you both had affairs or just him?
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