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writes:I'm bi. I'm fine with that. I'm not really sure how to explain it but I'm a lot more into girls than I am guys, even though I do like some guys. I'm not sure if that makes sense but I much prefer girls. I want to come out and I'm not too worried because I know my friends will be fine with it and even my Dad. But my Mum is homophobic and worse than that she says there's no such thing as bisexuality. How am I meant to deal with telling her that I'm something she claims isn't real? Reply to this Question
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reader, RL89 +, writes (17 January 2008):
Hiya,
okay your asking for advice so im going to be honest with you. my mum is also homophobic. i came out a year ago today and things have been difficult. ive had to give my mum a lot of time. i now live with my long term gf at her house. i feel i am not welcome at my house. my mum hates the fact that i am gay and i cannot mention it to her when i see her. BUT MY MUM DOES NOT HATE ME. infact without all the gay stuff she absoblutely adores me. of course it hurts that i cannot talk to my mum or turn to my mum for advice and tell her how happy i am. but that is what i have to deal with just to be true to myself. i cannot live a lie, and will not. it will only make you sad. i was blunt with my mum when i came out. i told her i was a lesbian and i cannot change that! i really hope that it all works out. it may be hard but persevere. good luck hun
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2008): Hi Hunny.
You have to live your life as you feel free to or your not being the person you really are and your mum will one day have to accept this or not, And as a mother with a child who is bi sexual that is not a opption never have I had any concerns about my childs sexuality, You say your mother is homophobic has she spoken alot about this I say this as a friend of mine who is in a lovely relationship with the same sex has not had the same problem but her mother has always from an early age known her daughter to be of this nature accepts this but still expects her daughter to see sense and get married one day and have a family. My friend who in her 30s just rolls her eyes and says well its her way of dealing with it, Hunny my question is why is your mum so against this? And in her heart may she already no as that may be why she acts the way she does. After saying all that she may not no at all and this is just her way, You want to tell her the truth have a word with your dad tell him off your worrys and maybe he could be there to help you. I do hope this goes well for you. At the end of the day hunny you are the person you want to be and in life thats all that matters TAKE CARE WITH LOVE MANDY xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (6 January 2008):
 You are fine with it and you mother says there is no such thing as a bisexual. I don't see where is the problem? You do yours and she believes hers. Live and let live.Why you need to convince your mom? Let her believe what she wants.
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