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writes:So my wife is about 6 weeks pregnant. I know how the whole pregnancy deal works. It's tiring, they feel nausueted, etc etc. I get it. My wife has made it seem like she's incapacitated!I always pay the bills, maintain the cars, feed the dogs, mow the lawn, take out the trash, and I work 60 hour work weeks. Lately I have been working 70 hours a week to get some extra money for when the baby comes.Granted, she works also. So on those days I don't expect a lot out of her because I'm sure work drained her. But even on her days off she doesn't do anything. It's always with the I'm pregnant deal. Don't misunderstand me, I love her to death and I expected to have to pick up almost all the tasks myself but sometimes I feel like she milks it too much. For ex, right now she's taking a nap because she's tired. It's Monday. My only day off of the week. She had the whole weekend off and called in sick today, "to spend time with me." but she hasn't. I've had to water the front and back yard, our dog is sick and threw up everywhere in his kennel and I have to clean it. Plus, she tells me she is really craving ice cream and the nearest shop is 20 min away. So I tell her I would love to when I get done with the chores and she just gives me the guilt trip. Says ok, but then just is mopping around. So I have to drop everything and go get her the da$! Ice cream. I just don't think I can handle 8 more months of this.And they say it gets worse?! How do I explain that I understand she's pregnant but it's not like she's invalid! (no offense intended)help
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2010): I had my first baby in january. 6 - 13 weeks I felt super tired and drained and when I did get home I was sleeping. I wouldnt hardly eat I slept so much. After I made dinner I'd practically fall asleep in my food. But as for cravings, I really dont think she should be having many if any yet. Granted she wil be eating a lot more the first 3 months or so. I think you just need to sit down and have a talk with her, tell her if she has a craving, then she needs to either go and get what she wants or she needs to find something else to eat. I would also talk to the doctor about her cravings and what she will be and wont be able to do, maybe hearing it from the doctor will make her realize she needs to do a lil more. ( And beware of the nineth month! It was the HARDEST month for me, I couldnt even make dinner because standing around would make my feet ache and swell sooooo bad. But baby is totally worth it lol) I hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2010): hey there, she's def milking it. Im 7weeks pregnant and i work a 40hr week. I have my off days but i just chill WITH my partner. I still do all my household chores. I fond that im doing much more now that im preg. Id tell her to ease up on the whole im pregnant thing because seriously 6weeks is nothing. The only thing thats changed with her body is that her uterus has doubled in size and her breasts are probs sore. Thats it. As i said i still do everything as i would usually.... But i do congradulate u on the pregnancy mate and good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2010): i'm almost six months and generally don't act like this at all - sure i have my off days but as a whole, if i want ice cream i go get it myself and i do household chores everyday. I personally think she is milking it. Six weeks is nothing really in my opinion.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (27 April 2010):
 I think you are a little resentful, maybe you weren't quite ready to be a parent, and suddenly found yourself thrown into this role. I also think she is probably milking it but probably needs reassurance that you arent pulling away because you feel resentful. It also doesn't help that many of her girlfriends have shared their stories with her, about how their husbands doted over them, waiting on them hand and foot, treating them like a queen and there you are scowling at her. This is going to be a difficult 9 months if you continue down this path. Sit her down and tell her gently how you feel, but be prepared to give her some perks. Do a few things for her without being nagged; show her she's still special, beautiful and loved and maybe she'll quit being such a baby while she's carrying your baby.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2010): Just be straight with her. She may be a little hormonal at the moment but trust me 6 weeks is nothing on the discomfort scale, iv been there and done that. If she's acting like this now, it's set to get a whole lot worse. Just be direct with her because it sounds like she's taking you for a mug, and if you let her, you are one. Don't be scared, what can she do? She loves you right. She's not gonna leave you, she's not gonna take the baby away. Sometimes people just need a kick up the backside to realise what their doing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2010): its totally normal.. give her a break, she only gets to act like this for only 9 months..=D and than back to old life.. so yeah.. and maybe its the hormones to ! for ex. was she lazy before she got pregnant think about it!
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